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After another hours thinking about SA, I am wondering if the answer to overcoming SA is to make the current problem of fearing negative judgement no longer a problem. Speaking purely for myself for how I suffer, my SA has been brought about by negative thinking patterns - bad experiences...

Hey everyone, hope everyone is well on this last work day before Christmas. I read about a theory about what we need to do in order to overcome SA, and it was the most interesting theory I have heard so far because it sounds like it could be the quickest way to achieve it. Unfortunatly I...

It does appear to me that as a whole, SA sufferers think so negatively of themselves, put themself down, concentrate purely on their perceived negatives, flaws, insecurities, etc and just have a really low opinion of themselves. There does seem something wrong here - we think negatively simply...

I am just reading a book on confidence and I came across a really interesting tip when faced with situations we fear. I thought I would write it on here to see what you think. It basically says that when faced with a situation we are worried about as we have no confidence (or little confidence...

I was in a book shop last week reading about confidence and one section was discussing that one key part to becoming confident and building self worth, self esteem, basically becoming self confident was that we need to have real goals, real ambitions that we desperately want and that we are...

I have made a lot of progress on SA in the last couple of years but after a good think today I realise I have made very little progress when it comes to confidence around women. When I say women I really mean women my sort of age who I would consider as the sort of age range that I would be...

I am sorry if this is in the wrong section or has been done before. The reason I write this is because I want to change my beliefs that others are all so judgemental on looks and only show interest in people of the opposite sex depending on how someone looks. I would like to think I am...

I thought I would have a rant about work just before I go to bed on this sunday night. People on death row have more motivation than me when it comes to work and to be honest I don't think switching jobs would help, unless I found a dream job like a travel writer or something really exciting...

I would be so grateful to anyone who votes on this poll. I thought it be best to make this a poll because I know a lot of people don't feel like writing. If you find yourself in situations or around people in which you feel anxious, what effect does it have on your speaking? I am particular...

How big a problem is this with SA sufferers? If you suffer from this fear do you think if you overcame this problem that SA could be overcome? I personally feel that this is the only problem I have with SA - the fear of speaking when anxious makes me avoid anxious situations. Would anyone be...

I don't really know why I am writing this, the weekend is here in an hour which is so cool, but I just wish I was doing something fun and exciting, but as usual I have no plans and well to be honest there is no one locally any more who I like enough to want to do fun things with - my old good...

I was at work today kind of bored and I was just thinking a lot about SA and I am so excited about what I thought of - not only understanding SA more but the solution in overcoming SA too. I just couldn't wait to share my thoughts and hear what people think. I will try and make this as brief as...

I write this post as a topic branching off my other post 'Catastrophising what people think'. If you don't agree with my thoughts then I totally understand, we all suffer differently and this is just something that I have been thinking about my own situation. I really do believe for myself...

I have spent a few hours today thinking about becoming confident in the situations we are anxious in and I am absolutely convinced one huge problem is that we catastrophise what people are thinking in situations we are anxious in. These are not beliefs on ourselves, its beliefs that people see...

I thought about something yesterday about SA that I had never thought of before or even heard mentioned. I am so determined to overcome my confidence issues (SA) and was thinking about the situations and people I am anxious around. I have made so much progress by gaining some self esteem and...

adjacent to you with people in, do you get self conscious? If so what do you usually do? Please answer if you read this whether its yes or now, I would be so grateful as I am trying to work something out.

I remember the days as a child up to the age of about 11 or 12 where I had so much confidence, I had no social anxiety, I would love to read stories out to class, I was so confident and outgoing. At high school I suffered years of put downs, bullying, ridicule, insults teasing, over a slight...

I am new here, I am very pro-active at beating SA, I am making great progress and really hope to chat to like minded determined people to overcome SA. I love the challenge of overcoming SA and would love to chat to people who also are so determined to beat SA. I was banned from the other forum...