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I couldn't get the whole question on the title, but this morning I have been working on some feared situations that cause huge anxiety, i.e. for myself public speaking, but forget the situation of public speaking as I wondering if others fear a situation simply because you have a belief that you...

I have come to the point where I believe I no longer care what people think of me. In the past I have been so self conscious, but now self consciousness is over, I do not care what people think. For starters, self consciousness, its completely irrelevant. I mean what does it achieve? Nothing...

I know its kind of a funny question and is very much linked to my other post of 'Do you believe people always judge you critically', but I am currently really struggling to believe that people are not horrible. I am wondering what do you think of people? I just think that my biggest problem...

I realised that yesterday that I believe everyone other than those I know like me and who I trust, I believe everyone else just looks at me critically and negatively. For instance I believe any woman (unless I friendly and chat to them a lot) I think they all look at me critically, hence me...

I have been thinking today about what is next for me (I kind of feel I have to start making changes soon because I have had the pause button on my life for 5 years now) and I have no idea what is next. My only aim in life right now has been trying to overcome SA and although I am making progress...

which you heard involved 'public speaking', such as introducing yourself to a room of strangers saying your name, where you work and something about yourself and have to do role play throughout the day, what would you do? (I am making the assumption here that you fear public speaking, if you...

I know its not SA related, but its sunday night and I have the motivation of zero about the prospect of another boring week ahead at work. But what is the answer? I mean I have to work to pay the bills, but is this what life is about? Bored senseless each weekday of the year just to afford the...

I have finally overcome the self consciousness in how I look which has taken over my life for the past decade, amazingly it took one day in the end to sort out. I never thought I would ever ever overcome that. So I am now on my final hurdle, overcoming the fear of speaking. Now I can only...

you feel so negatively of how you look? I remember the days I used to accept how I look, I was not self conscious, I didn't feel negative, inadequate, inferior for how I look. But years of ridicule at high school about many different aspects of my appearance left me with extremely low self...

I don't know if that is a silly question or not, I mean for me its all about being self conscious, maybe I am asking a silly question asking that, but I know everyone suffers very differently and for different reasons? But how big a factor in your SA does being self conscious, so aware of your...

do you feel really negative about yourself, like you are not good enough, etc? If so, do you put it down to your perceived flaws as to why you feel self conscious, inadequate, not good enough, etc? Are you really self conscious about those parts of you and you cannot accept yourself because of...

i.e. if there are things about your appearance that you feel really insecure and self conscious about and you believe you are inadequate and not good enough because of those things, would you accept yourself if you looked like other people with flaws? I am not sure how clear my question is, I...

I think the longest part of overcoming SA is working out exactly how you suffer in order to have a plan aimed at overcoming SA. I know for myself it has taken a long time to really understand the way I feel/suffer, for a long time I felt anxiety and didn't ever know why. I don't believe its...

I am just wondering do you think of your flaws in a far, far more negative way than the way you see flaws in other people? I mean I don't look at people critically at all, if someone is overweight, is bald, has big ears, nose or chin, or if someone is not intelligent, is quiet or lacks...

Now I am focused on gaining a higher opinion of myself and my abilities to succeed in situations, I can now see why it is so important to concentrate on positives on yourself, not allowing to think bad of yourself. Because quite simply that is what confidence is - a gage of the value you place...

OK, I can only speak for myself, because I don't want to sound like I know how everyone suffers with SA, because I don't. But I have come to the conclusion SA is simply down to the opinion we have of ourselves. It is not about the fear of being judged negatively, that is in my opinion not a...

Competitiveness is not something I like to be honest, I have seen so many competitive people who seem jerks, a bit selfish, act like morons when it comes to anything that can be seen as a competition. But it is something that motivated, driven people who are successful have in abundance. Strong...

The reason I write this is because I believe understanding what exactly SA is about holds the answers to beating SA. I believe for myself (maybe others can relate, maybe you won't) is that I have developed such negative beliefs in myself and in my ability in relation to the feared...

I am wondering if people feel inferior to people and if so, is your anxiety at its strongest around these people? I am thinking this could be a good way to help each other realise that we are not inferior to these people, but subconsciously we feel we are not good enough compared to them and...

I am on a mission to no longer be afraid of negative feedback, I have been looking into negative feedback and I really am seeing that it really doesn't matter. It is so important to work on not being afraid of negative feedback, its basically how SA started. You have to accept that some people...