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I had a realization lately... Because of my avoidant character and shyness, people really disrespect me. I was in denial about that for a long time, but I think people walk all over me...They're flagrantly inconsiderate, will make jokes at my expense without thinking twice and won't respect any...

Can anyone do it? Can you go to a nice restaurant by yourself to have dinner? I can't...not because I'm anxious of the surroundings, but because I'm anxious about being judged...I will also feel like crap, looking around me seeing friends, dates and families chatting it up... What are your...

Do you look straight down or straight ahead of you? I tend to look straight ahead, but my eye always darts around when I'm approaching people coming my direction. Anyone else do that?

I find that a lot of shy people just answer questions in conversation as-is and, in doing so, can never keep the conversation going. This is all THEIR fault...it has absolutely nothing to do with shyness or SA. When you're having a conversation with me (or ANYONE really) and I'm asking you a...

A friend of mine is in town for a couple of weeks and he suggested we meet somewhere... Now, I haven't been "out" with friends in a very, very long time...So long, in fact, that I have no idea what friends are supposed to do together (especially when it's two of them)...bar? coffee? movie? (I...

So I was just talking to a friend of mine and he told me he's heading to Spain with a bunch of his friends for 3 weeks... And then I go to work and I overheard a colleague talking about how awesome his trip to Vegas was with his buddies... And here I am thinking...have I *EVER* gone on...

So I go jogging a lot, usually through a park then by the river, and all along that path, their are always couples strolling along, holding hands, sometimes kissing. A while back, I didn't used to mind that, but it's been weighing very heavily on me lately...like one time I just stopped running...

*Inspired by a reply in another thread* It's rare that I have to resort to that strategy, but somehow I end up doing it a couple of times a year! Whenever I need to 'get out fast' or I feel immensely uncomfortable or left out, I'll whip out my cellphone and subtly start pretending like I'm...

I went to this new indoor rock climbing/bouldering place the other day, and they gave me a waiver form which required me to list an 'emergency contact', and I just stood there stymied (holding up the line) because I had no idea who to list. Ordinarily, I would put my girlfriend or one of my...

Hey everyone, Today, I feel proud of myself for 2 reasons: 1) I just got back from a camping trip with 5 other co-workers who I didn't know that well...and I managed to pull it off without having any major anxieties...and even if I didn't score any major social points with most of them, I'm...

So after doing nothing 'social' today on my birthday, aside from lunching with my 2 best friends at work, I go home and I see that I got quite a few bday wishes on Facebook, at least 2 of which are from people who somehow ended up on my friends list some time back...but honestly, none of these...

Today, while jogging, I came across a guy that looked a bit overweight and very out of shape and found myself thinking...man, this guy probably has a hard time picking up girls. Other people must also find him unattractive. Now, before I go on, let me note that I have very low self-esteem, so I...

A couple of hours ago, my friend invited me to go out with him and bunch of people from work to go have lunch in a nice restaurant a couple of blocks down, and with great reluctance I said yes (desperate for social contact). Anyway, I go downstairs and I met with him and another guy and off we...

I was feeling sick today at work, so I decided to leave early. At home, sitting in my bedroom, I heard a loud noise outside. People were getting together for a party, and I could see that there were at least two noisy parties just in the building next to mine... It bothered me, as it served as...

What do you say to people when they ask you the following: 1) How come you don't have a bf/gf? 2) Why don't you find yourself a bf/gf?

was born to German Jewish immigrants. He was recognized as a prodigy by his parents, and so, to nurture his talent they tended to his every need and shielded him from the outside world. He was also frequently ill, so he had little social interaction with children around him. In high school, he...

Hey everyone, I suffer from more or less general HH (everywhere except hands and feet!) and it's bothered me all my life...until I came to this site and found out about Avert. This is my second day so far...I've taken one 2 mg pill yesterday and it didn't do THAT much (but it certainly did...

Hey everyone, I guess, judging by my elevated activity here recently, I'm going through a bit of lull these days... I was just wondering - because this happens to me more often than it should - if you call someone and they don't pick up...how many more times do you call/email/text them before...

Just after I was done my jog today, walking back to my car, I passed a group of girls who started laughing at about the same time I passed them.... Naturally, I walked up to my car and started staring at my reflection, wondering if there was anything off about me. This happens to most people...

Hey SPW, Have you ever obsessed about someone so much that thoughts of that person occupied you almost all the time? I've been fixated on someone for the better part of the last 8 months, thinking about her all the time...when I wake up, on my way to work, AT work, when I'm at the gym...