Scared of being interested in

Do you get scared or nervous when others find you interesting (male/female.) I always feel... anxious whenever I meet a stranger or someone I knew from school or being introduced to somebody, that they find me interesting because I'm so different, yet most tried to change me and have not yet succeeded with their attempts to do so. I have no idea why anyone would be interested by how I think or act, I just figure myself out as a weirdo. I wish they would just find others who are similar in behavior as them, not someone who is different whom they think they think they can change. I'd rather be alone.

I feel you !
It's like you wouldn't imagine someone could even possibly find you interesting ! I hate it when it happens because I'm scared to disappoint them. I don't like it when people lose interest in me, and that pushes me to automatically drive them away (paradoxally). I try to lessen the contact with people who compliment me. Is that weird? Do you do the same?

I think we really need is a social group that accepts you as you are I feel that you need to exert a lot of effort in finding that group you need to really work at finding that social group Of people that you can really trust

Yes, I get nervous when someone likes me or wants to talk to me. I can be very rejecting without meaning to, because I get so awkward and just can´t stay calm and behave nicely...

I know most people would offer similar advice opposed to this, but I think what's best is for me to just find my solitude and at least if eventually I do come across aquantances, I don't want much to do with them. Most people have impacted a great damage on me and self esteem, so I question why most people would be so selfish as to think about themselves rather than consider and accept the person they are with. When I'm different around others, I don't want to be with the ones who are already contributor society fellas since their intelligence has been brainwashed enough. Maybe old, elderly people I could befriend, but not the younger generation.

Hey, yeah I understand. When someone compliments me I kind of feel awkward. Like someone commenting "Oh you have pretty eyes." "Your hair is so pretty." those things. I mean, I know why people do that and I appreciate their kindness and respect for me, but I just can't believe it. I've had a few guys checking me out, though I don't see what attraction of myself appeals to them why they have to look at me. Has that happened to you though? I wish no one looked at me at all. I don't think I'm pretty, cute, beautiful, or anything no matter who is going to convince me I am. Till the end of the day, I'm still the same looking troll I was in the morning. It's all the same. I don't want anybody to convince me anymore because if I don't believe then it must be true.

I'm scared of being interested in by extroverted, popular people. Because if they're interested in me, they will try to invite me to parties and large gatherings of people. I would rather not go since I'm initimidated by large groups of people. Plus I've had let-downs in the past. Some people who talked to me expected me to be as extraverted and confident as they are, but when they found out I'm the opposite, they lose interest which makes me feel bad.

If a guy is interested in me, I feel nervous too because I'm not looking for a relationship and absolutely dislike rejecting people.

I understand Jaim, I really don't want to be paired with extroverted people because they all behave so similarly voicing their opinions too much down our throats. I wish if extroverts need friends to talk to, why do they always have to approach an introvert and try and change them? That makes no sense. I want the extroverts to mind their own buisness and go play with their other extroverted friends, they don't need someone opposite just to change them or feel bad for them. That's another thing I hate about extroverts when they feel bad for especially introverts who are bullied or who are lonely but they still trying to change others apperances. :kickingmyself: I try to understand these extroverted people and their ways, but they only end up confusing me because they just want someone as their less assertive side kick dress up doll. I don't need an extroverted friend just to come out of my shell, I think I can find friends on my own without anybody else's approach and wishing to change me. But then now, I'm just a hunchback.

I was sadly born a freak of nature so I feel sick if anyone paid any interest in me as for me its just all lies just trying to get a big giggle out of me so I'm extremely paranoid there only making it up just to giggle at me make jokes of me or ect as the past has been HELL for me just damn right pure HELL I have been on dates ect and all I get is even after a few good weeks months of dating and all I get is laugher jokes some girls even try and take pics mostly all just walk away laugher could date a girl for months be so in together and well she end up giggling and walking away and il never hear from her again so sadly I was born a freak of nature so yes I'm extremely paranoid just believe its all some kind of sick joke to giggle at me .... I'm really messed up in the head so wouldn't even respond to anyone paying me any attention as I know what's gonna happen as soon as they see the real me the freak there walk away laughing

Oh I'm so sorry you've been treated in this mess. I feel more like a creep than a freaky person though. Like people are just awakward to be around with me, I can sense it in them. I don't know why anyone would want to be my friend actually, since I act like the most creepiest bipolar kid, I think it'd be best if most of these extroverts stayed away from me so I can isolate myself from the world. The only way extroverts are going to get me to come out of my shell is if they'll give up behaving in their social norms, stop trying to adjust others, and start acting more considerate. That's the only secret to breaking my shy barrier,(only extroverts wouldn't have the faintest clue to find that out)-_-