Hi everyone,
I am new to this forum, and I joined just because I am desperate for help in this situation.
I have lived in my house for 10 years now, and my next door neighbour has become increasingly worse in that time. It started out that I'd go out and work on my garden, and she'd make little back handed remarks... and ask when I was going to fix something on my house. It kind of bothered me, but I just smiled and took it. She became increasingly bossy, and nosey, to the point where I just fear going outside because I could bump into her.
Whenever someone would come to my house she would stop them out front and tell them all of the "bad" things I had been doing.. such as sleeping until 11 am, and buying pizza for dinner the night before. (I was working nights at the time). She told my aunt that if I didn't answer the door she could show her how to get in my back door.
All of this really got to me, but I just let it go to keep the peace.
Well now things are just awful. I have become so afraid of being confronted by her that I do not take good care of my property anymore, and she calls the city on me every chance she gets. I was outside today trying to clean up, and when I came inside I heard her from my window calling me a "Messy damn person". What she doesn't understand is she is the one creating the situation by constantly harassing me, and being so confrontational about things that I do anything to avoid her.
I do not know what to do, and I am so afraid she is going to call the city on me again. I feel so depressed whenever she talks badly about me, and/or confronts people coming to visit me about how awful I am. It makes me feel horrible, which causes me to develop worse symptoms. What can I do??? Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
I am new to this forum, and I joined just because I am desperate for help in this situation.
I have lived in my house for 10 years now, and my next door neighbour has become increasingly worse in that time. It started out that I'd go out and work on my garden, and she'd make little back handed remarks... and ask when I was going to fix something on my house. It kind of bothered me, but I just smiled and took it. She became increasingly bossy, and nosey, to the point where I just fear going outside because I could bump into her.
Whenever someone would come to my house she would stop them out front and tell them all of the "bad" things I had been doing.. such as sleeping until 11 am, and buying pizza for dinner the night before. (I was working nights at the time). She told my aunt that if I didn't answer the door she could show her how to get in my back door.
All of this really got to me, but I just let it go to keep the peace.
Well now things are just awful. I have become so afraid of being confronted by her that I do not take good care of my property anymore, and she calls the city on me every chance she gets. I was outside today trying to clean up, and when I came inside I heard her from my window calling me a "Messy damn person". What she doesn't understand is she is the one creating the situation by constantly harassing me, and being so confrontational about things that I do anything to avoid her.
I do not know what to do, and I am so afraid she is going to call the city on me again. I feel so depressed whenever she talks badly about me, and/or confronts people coming to visit me about how awful I am. It makes me feel horrible, which causes me to develop worse symptoms. What can I do??? Any advice would be greatly appreciated.