I'm the only person I know who has this problem - talking and connecting with people that is. It seems to come so easily to everybody I know, even my sister and my closest friends who I have so much in common with. I use to think it wasnt me, it was weird that people could have conversations about things of absolutely no importance - like the weather, what on earth can you say about the weather thats interesting??
Then I gradually started to realise I couldnt talk to people about a lot of things, whether they were interesting or not, because I didnt think I had anything important to say about anything. It would make me nervous and my mind would go blank, even over the simplist of things. I think the fact that I had so many talkative friends who were so interested in themselves and didnt realise when people had become bored or irritated with them, that it made me more aware of what I was saying and if people were interested in me. My dad and ex boyfriend are also really critical and would tell me to shut up or "stop chatting ****" when I'd try to start a conversation - now I don't bother. Which made me pretty critical as well, so for example, a lot of people repeat themselves all the time and it would annoy me, so I tried not to do that. But all thats happened is I'm now so paranoid about what people will think of me that I can't say anything to anyone without getting nervous and messing up what I'm trying to say, which of course makes me look weird so the whole thing goes round in one big circle.
Thats the worst thing I think, feeling like your weird... but not weird enough for anyone to think you need help, just that your a generally weird person lol. I'm here mainly because I want to find friends who actually understand how much of an issue this can be and also for ideas on how to deal with it. I don't want to be this way forever... it isn't who I am, and I don't think a lot of people, close friends and family included, actually see the real me anymore. And I'm desperate for them too... I just don't know how to change. Any suggestions or even anyone thats been through something similar, please reply. I'm feeling very alone right now.
Then I gradually started to realise I couldnt talk to people about a lot of things, whether they were interesting or not, because I didnt think I had anything important to say about anything. It would make me nervous and my mind would go blank, even over the simplist of things. I think the fact that I had so many talkative friends who were so interested in themselves and didnt realise when people had become bored or irritated with them, that it made me more aware of what I was saying and if people were interested in me. My dad and ex boyfriend are also really critical and would tell me to shut up or "stop chatting ****" when I'd try to start a conversation - now I don't bother. Which made me pretty critical as well, so for example, a lot of people repeat themselves all the time and it would annoy me, so I tried not to do that. But all thats happened is I'm now so paranoid about what people will think of me that I can't say anything to anyone without getting nervous and messing up what I'm trying to say, which of course makes me look weird so the whole thing goes round in one big circle.
Thats the worst thing I think, feeling like your weird... but not weird enough for anyone to think you need help, just that your a generally weird person lol. I'm here mainly because I want to find friends who actually understand how much of an issue this can be and also for ideas on how to deal with it. I don't want to be this way forever... it isn't who I am, and I don't think a lot of people, close friends and family included, actually see the real me anymore. And I'm desperate for them too... I just don't know how to change. Any suggestions or even anyone thats been through something similar, please reply. I'm feeling very alone right now.