Meeting people again

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aj

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Trying to be positive again...

On Friday at 5pm onwards the pub was fairly busy and everyone was in their groups. I can't see how I'd ever get around that.

I'm thinking that maybe I should pop round for a quick drink in my lunch hour. When I've been there at that kind of time it's always been fairly quiet so maybe someone might be on their own, or at least not in a big group.

Good idea or silly idea? I don't know what I'd drink either. Would a pint of beer be too much - would it make me stink of alcohol? I'm not really trying to get away with anything and after Friday night's experience it seems that it wouldn't affect me much. But that's why I'm asking ;)
 
Fairy001

Fairy001

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Less wory about others, more about you. You are free, do what makes you comfortable. Have faith.


Peace xxx
 
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aj

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Basically, if I drink a pint/can of beer, is it going to be blatantly obvious on my breath with someone sat next to and opposite me? Even if it's not going to affect anything, I still don't really want to draw attention to myself, as with anything else :lol:
 
krs2snow

krs2snow

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Yea, going back to work after having a couple drinks wouldn't be much fun I don't think. You could use breath mints or something but I'd still worry it'd be obvious. It'd be just my luck that day someone would ask me to say something totally off the wall. Like "proliferation" 8O & I know I'd have a hard time saying it cuz I've made it a policy to never have "just one" haha. :oops: :D
 
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aj

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2Crowded said:
I vote for Go....& drink one for me too. :wink:
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I will if it happens, lol.

Ironically it could help me at work, because I'd be more likely to ask for help when I need it!
 
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aj

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Oh well, there goes that plan. I bought a can of it so I could try it before I actually went to the pub another day, and it didn't really do anything. It didn't make me talk more, it just made me feel tired and paranoid. I know that one isn't much compared to what people have on a night out but I'm not going to drink more than one at work. I'm sad that it didn't help really. Back to the drawing board!
 
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EvilFlyingCow

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I wouldn't get in the habit of relying on alcohol to help you socialize if you haven't started yet. I do it, but it's hard to stop drinking once I've started.
 
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EvilFlyingCow

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Yeah a lot of times I end up waking up (with a hangover) and thinking about how much of an idiot I made of myself the night before when I was drunk. And then I keep thinking about this for days or even weeks. So although alcohol can make you relax and be calm in social situations, it doesn't really seem to help in the long run.
 
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aj

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At work today I saw someone I knew with her boyfriend outside, they were right in front of the window I can see from where I am. And it hit me, I have no idea how I'm going to make someone feel like that about me. Ever. Maybe it goes with feeling like a kid but I'm pretty sure I don't give off to anyone that I'm interested in anything like that. I feel asexual, if that's the right word.

With the temps starting at work, when I was leaving for home they were all coming out and they were in twos and threes... within days, maybe even hours of meeting each other. And I haven't done that in more than a year. Or ever before that.

I can have a change, grow my hair longer, stop shaving, I can go to the pub as much as I like - I mean ffs, I do go to work every day - even if I stop being scared for a moment, I still can't do this.

:(
 
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aj

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Trouble is... even if I feel good and might somehow find the confidence to ask someone out or anything like that... I still meet absolutely no new people at all, except for times like before when someone new starts at work. I don't go out other than to work and going to the pub with them seems to be just as bad, which I was hoping it wouldn't be. You're in your groups and that's it.

I know there are classes and things like that, but I've never liked them. Even if you do join one, it's like work again... once you've met everyone, that's it unless someone new comes.

What do you do?
 
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