Let's do the wave... lol

So, my social anxiety comes in waves. I'll have a wave of good days(I can talk to anyone about anything, anytime and not feel awkward), a wave of okay days(slightly awkward) and then a wave of bad days(completely awkward, I avoid people and making conversation with them, cause I have no idea what to say).

It's frustrating, but at the same time, I am happy that it comes in waves, because then I know that at least once I am out of the slump, I'll have good days. But when I am having good days, it makes me sad to think I will have bad days, sooner or later.

Does this happen to anyone else? Or is it just me... When it comes to social anxiety. Is this a normal thing?

its kind of like that for me. but i think i usualy have the bad days more when ive had a few days off from work and just stayed at home bored.

Yeh im always a lot better when im occupied but as i've finished school now and am sitting around doing nothing at home......i'm going quietly insane, been six months of nothing 8O kinda dug myself a hole i can't get out of.......lol original....

Definately!
Sometimes I think 'why am I worrying, I can talk to lots of people, have lots of friends etc'
then others (mostly at school when I feel alone) I shut down again.

When I do have a 'bad wave' everything else gets mucked up, I feel anxious, my eating patterns become horrible, feel very demotivated, irritable, mood swings and general low and want to hide away.

I guess you you've just got to look at those 'good waves' and think I CAN be like this all the time.

Yeh I'm the same

Like for example when I am sitting with my group of friends at school, on a good day I can have conversations with them and laugh around / feel comfortable but on a bad day I just stay really quiet and maybe go to the library or something to avoid being around people

My SP comes whenever I start to a new job, a new course, whatever new and not familiar. Can we call this a wave

Well, it's natural to feel anxious when trying and doing things you have never done before. I get the same way. And I think I will fail, but then when I do it, I realize (after several weeks) that I am perfectly capable of doing whatever the task may be.

I guess I'm not the only one. It's kinda weird how it goes in waves, and I do try to say "hey I can be like this all the time", but idk, maybe it's okay to have down days. Days to recharge the batteries? ?

The worst thing is perception and the change of this during 'down days'. Too many times I have set things up only the next day to completely fail or run away from it. I used to literally rage the following day after a 'good day' due to my perception that I would mess everything up.

Ever had days of claritiy? Like... /palmtoforehead "Oh wow"? My whole life is a blur at the moment but some days I just somehow understand everything. What really don't help that I basically have no sleep pattern or that I need to be (sleep)exhausted to sleep. Eh.

[reason for thread revival: I just saw that old PM xD]

I can go between two extremes in a single day! On Monday morning I am usually pretty happy because I'm actually to seeing humans again after a weekend of doing nothing... I get that "it's all going to be alright" feeling. At the end of the day it's often the complete opposite because I've fallen straight back into the rut of not making conversation and failed miserably at changing anything. The whole of the week before last was good for me, though - I almost joined people at break time! 8O

Does anyone get a boost when the weather is good? Because I do. It's normally wet, cold and miserable here, but today it was dry with blue skies, there was even a bit of warmth in the air, it felt like summer... it was great!