Is anyone really quiet at work

Richey

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For me it depends on the type of work, in an office job i'm more relaxed and will open up but in a fast paced job(factory, kitchen) im usually very quiet and will say very little unless there are people im comfortable around which is rare...

the pressure to perform seems to make me uncomfortable, i'm not sure how to fix that.
 

blue-roses

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I only ever had two jobs; the first was two days taking phone orders at a restaurant and the other people there hated me as soon as I opened my mouth because they said I "talk real posh". I was way too preoccupied with freaking out about the phones to even try and socialise with them anyway.

The second one was at KFC and the other girls were all a couple of years younger than me; I spoke to them when they spoke to me, but didn't initiate any conversations because I already felt ancient compared to them and wasn't down with what was going on at the local high school, haha. The nail in the coffin was one of them saying out of nowhere, "You're very quiet", not in a nasty way, but I had no idea what to say; I just said "yeah..." and turned towards the deep fryer praying for something to do... Never really talked to them again after that, and left after a couple of weeks.
 

PennyLane

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I have had loads of jobs before uni, law firm for a year, leisure club assistant, accountant, bank job for 2 years and I never got completely comfortable. I always hear "You're so quiet"....seriously it must take amazing detective skills for them to determine this and point it out to me!!

The problem is...I look normal, I dress normal and im not painfully unattractive or anything so rather than think im shy they tend to think Im rude or arrogant. I've heard this many times from work places.
 

Dodger

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I was but I kind of am not so shy at work anymore that is the only place people accept me as a person.
 
it depends on your workmates or environment. if they're cool then i'd be noisy but if they're not, i'll probably keep everything to myself and read a book during breaks
 

dzerklis

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if you are uncomfortable with your quietness, then it's a problem and people usually sense it and react to it. but if you really are asocial then its usually no problem. that's how it is with me anyway.
 

Carnation

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Yeah I have the "oh she's so quiet" comment all the time and it pisses me right off. I work in an office environment and although I enjoy my job I don't really click with my colleagues.
 

philly2bits

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I rarely talk at work unless it's about the work itself. Other then that, I just can't seem to find anything to talk about.
 

Harleyq

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Yeah, I'm very quiet, except for around one bus girl who I feel comfortable around. We have a host and a waitress that I feel a little less anxious around but even with them, I'm generally pretty quiet
 

dmdmm

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I'm typically quiet at work, but it all depends on the people I'm around. To some of the people I work with, I come off as cold and rude. Others, I kind of loosen up a bit because I know they don't judge me.

I work in retail.

I do have to say though that dealing with the public has helped me somewhat get over my fears of talking to strangers.

There is one person I work with that is always "why are you so quiet? You need to talk more!"
Then when I try to talk to her, she says I make her nervous. When I try to actually work with her, she says I'm rude because I just want to get the job done.
 
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