I Can't Cry, Can You?

Somebody recently asked me if I was a crier. Not only am I not inclined to cry, I can't even remember crying outside of childhood. When my mother passed away, I thought to myself, "Okay, this is the perfect time to cry, just let it all out" but no tears came. Although I was profoundly sad, all I could manage was a lump in my throat and feeling like I could cry. I fear one day that if I ever do cry, all the things I probably should have cried over in the past will come out at once and I will be in hysterics. What about you? Are some of you prone to cry easily or are there a few of you like myself who just can't seem to even when we think it's an appropriate time?

I'm not a person who cries at the drop of a hat. I rarely cry.

The last time I cried was when I had to get my dog put down, he had brain cancer.
As the Vet injected my dogs arm to put him to sleep, My dog nuzzled my palm as if to acknowledge saying goodbye.. I was crying so much.. I'm nearly crying now that I'm re-living it, then put his head gently upon the table and died. I cried all the way home on a 30 minute drive. Then cried some more.

I know a person who cried at tv commercials though lol.

PugofCrydee said:

I'm not a person who cries at the drop of a hat. I rarely cry.

The last time I cried was when I had to get my dog put down, he had brain cancer.
As the Vet injected my dogs arm to put him to sleep, My dog nuzzled my palm as if to acknowledge saying goodbye.. I was crying so much.. I'm nearly crying now that I'm re-living it, then put his head gently upon the table and died. I cried all the way home on a 30 minute drive. Then cried some more.

I know a person who cried at tv commercials though lol.

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We do get attached to our pets because they are truly our family. I always thought that was the worse part of owning a dog (or any pet, really). Their lifespans aren't the same as ours. I totally understand your tears for having to go thru that.

Well, I usually cry when frustration comes in overwhelming amounts - not the frustration that comes with inability to achieve goals , but the frustration that arises out of senseless and unfair moments in life - like when you have to cope with total idiots, who insult you. It still has to reach an overwhelming amount, though.

Of course, it doesn't usually occur out of any sort of emotions, but the frustration usually seems to be the instigating factor. Regarding emotions,... well, I think I'm sort of numb. For example, if a person close to me dies, then there would have to be some sort of intense factor involved, in order for it to make me liable to crying.

But emotions are very hard to deal with, especially when they come up in overwhelming amounts. I was actually so much concerned about my expressing of emotions, that I voluntarily tried to smile more, and sound more cheerful outside, even though I felt very numb on the inside.

P.S, don't bother making a pun out of relating crying with my username

Nope! Not unless something really gets to me and upsets, or I'll cry outta frustration.
But even then I rarely cry in front o' folk.

My mother and sisters on the other hand, they'll cry whenever something gets too difficult.
Just as bad is being honest and truthful with them, as they'll breakdown in tears then, too. Since they can't handle any criticism, and take it as a personal attack on their character. Always got to say the "right thing" and "be nice". And they'll regularly accuse me of being bully for merely point or asking why they're like that. But hey, I grew up in a dysfunctional family where violent, overly emotional, reactionary outbursts occurred so often they were "normal" :sad: :idontknow:

Sorry, didn't mean make this post that personal.

Very rarely. It usually has to be either an animal dying, or major depression. I seem to need to "admit/accept defeat" or sth like that.

Also it seems to be related with feeling out of control, which esp men in this country avoid (ie we/they always steer clear of being/feeling out of control, or stay always being/feeling in control of things including our emotions; ie a macho thing? but then women are pretty "staunch" in this country as well).

I dont regularly cry...unless my heart is involved in something . That doesnt happen very often though.



but still, as a man its not really something you can usually be open about. To a large extent men have to keep those feelings to themselves irl.



Its not easy being tough all the time though.

Yes, although since I started on medication I don't cry as much. The intensity of emotion is not as great. Which is a good and bad thing. I'm not as creative as I was with the thoughts flowing