I can't approach people or group of people because I have nothing to say

strongman

Member
So is this type of psychological problem or just lack of social skills.
I take interacting with people as a heavy mission , can't tell interesting stories ,and for some reason people get bored from my talking as I notice they cut me usually before I end.
I have currently no friends and no gf (I am handsome ,have decent job and good lover ) because I have no social life. Basically I just go from work to college to home ,without interacting with people.

Any help or openions are welcome, I am 30 if that help
 

Lavinialuna

Well-known member
Maybe you are only perceiving them as being bored because of the social anxiety? But if you are really worried that people cut you off, perhaps you are just dragging a story out (my husband does this, lol!) If it makes you self conscious, try to keep it short and to the point.
I think the key to finding the right person is just chemistry, and when you find them, you just know. Don't lose faith and don't settle. I feel bad for all of you struggling with finding "the one." Makes me so glad to be married! I spent a lot of time single though and know how frustrating it is, but then I walked into the room and there he was. Don't lose faith. I think all things happen in the right time.
 

strongman

Member
thanks Lavinialuna , but the problem is not just about some incidents , unability to socialize with people killing my personal and business opportunity . I need a fix to this
 

jaim38

Well-known member

anthonykell

Member
Hi strongman,

I can empathize with you here. I used to feel the same way. However, I shifted my way of thinking to "if you don't want to listen to me, you are not worth talking to anyway" and this helped a lot. I would then not get down about it and mope. Instead, I would feel better about myself because I know what I have to say and offer are intelligent, useful ideas and thoughts. If you don't listen to these, that's your loss!

So try shifting your way of thinking like this. You will then find people who ARE willing to listen and hear out your thoughts. These are the people that you want to make friendships with and communicate on a deeper level.

I hope this helps.
 
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