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Old 09-19-2010

I've found that I can never hold down a job for more than 3 to 4 months. I am at a stage where having a job is just an extra since I'm still in school but afterwards this could seriously become a problem. I usually quit my job cause I end up not liking the job and getting annoyed with the people I work with. Initially all start off all friendly iwth everyone than after a couple of weeks I start having thoughts associated with Av Pd. For instance that nobody at my job likes me, that they are all talking behind my back. So once that starts happening I start to avoid everyone and not talk at all like just do my work and read or listen to music during break to isolate my self. At my current job I know that people dont hate me but yet I still keep to myself as much as possible and do not talk. I really want to keep a job for more than 4 months though for myself.

Anybody have similair experiences?
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Old 09-19-2010

Hi joey 122

Avpd built-in clock!!??

Mr Avpd only allows you to spend so much time at work or the like before the bell rings and you want out.

All those thoughts you metioned and as you noted come from the dis-order.
Those thoughts are Mr Avoidance thoughts not yours.
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Old 09-19-2010
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ive had my job for well over 5yrs started when i was in yr11 highschool. its quite a social place. ive had my sh*t times in the place where i didnt fit in, to the point wher i got my mum to call in sick for me cause i really didnt want to be there. but i changed the department i worked in (checkouts) onto floor and i started fresh with people. i still keep to myself and still get my days when i dont want to be there. but ive grown acustom to it. and im sure they have to me that i am a shy person, but having worked out them for 2yrs.. theyve realised i am a good person.
just hang tight and do your own thing. what ive found was that people that keep to themselves get praised alot more, more work done and just small talk people.
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Old 09-19-2010
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i seem to have that built-in clock, too. it's like there is a certain capacity of how much i can tolerate before i break down or get let go. like you, it's usually 3-4 months.
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Old 10-15-2010

At least you've had a job. D:

I'm in my second year of college and still haven't had my first job. I'm frightened of the idea of having to put myself out there, trying to persuade to the interviewer that I'm awesome and deserve the job, and then actually dealing with customers and coworkers. I'm scared of being on the cash register, because I'm afraid I'll mess up simple math and look stupid.
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Old 10-15-2010
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I'm kind of the opposite... my avoidance causes me to fear change so much that I will stay at a job I hate (or don't necessarily love) rather than put myself out there interviewing and trying to get something better. My current full time job- 11 years and counting. I'm done with school and have a masters degree- but the combination of the crappy economy and my aversion to talking to new people and getting rejected some more keeps me stuck. I can't even bring myself to check for positions anymore, much less apply.
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Old 12-05-2010
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The longest I have managed to stay at a job is three years. I got my masters degree ten years ago, and since then I have resigned from four workplaces - four permanent and very good jobs - due to anxiety. The last one I only managed to keep for three months before I was hospitalized with major depression. I have now decided not to apply for another job in my profession, but for a job with less social contact and responsibility.
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