Sounds like a toxic environment. Do you still live at home? If you do I'd recommend gtfo ASAP. When I moved out of my mom's place our relationship did improve because we weren't around each other all the time.
At the moment, aye. Still living at home with my mum, still arguing. :sad: Though, I did get a few days, nearly a week, to myself near the end o' last month when she went to visit my older sister over in Ireland. Though, I was left to put up with my oldest sister who ruined the whole thing. Cuz she lied to me and said our phoned her, crying due to me not returning her calls, just 2 days after she'd arrived in Ireland. :thumbdown:
What's stopping me moving out? Well... Despite coping far better on my own, recently. Compared to the first time round when I had to keep clarifying more than once about every decision ah made.
"Are ye sure now, aye? Jist checkin'..."
Anyway. There's this daft f**kin' notion that, due to be disabled, I just cannae cope on ma own, right?
Can't be done! Come to find out recently that, when I spent a week in hospital following knee realignment and multiple wee surgeries to try n' correct issues relating to my walking pattern due to my physical disability, my mum had to have her eldest daughter, the oldest of my 2 older sisters, actually stay in the house with her and sleepover at night. Cuz our mum doesn't like being in the house by herself.
Plus, anytime I mention me moving out; my mum makes it about her, and turns into a guilt trip. As does my oldest sister, who are under the impression that it's my sole responsibility to care for them in terms of making sure their needs are met, and their happy. :kickingmyself:
Since my well-being is irrelevant. At least as far as the mental and emotional toll goes. As my mum asked me recently without a hint of irony:
"Why should you be depressed?"
Clearly my mum and sisters huv collective dementia at the amount of times they flow into a rage because I dared to suggest doing something different for change. Questioned why I should care about a problem that does directly affect me. Or asked them to be patient while I finish doing something, then they can have my attention. But no, they can't stand not being the centre of attention. Acting like stropy teenagers when they don't get their way. Criticising me for not being as outgoing as them.
Btw, I think it's cool you're Kenyan! I've always been intrigued by the abilities of some of the runners that come from that region.
Thanks. :thumbup: Yeah, that region has produced some impressive athletes over the years.
Tall and intimidating are good qualities. No one ****s with you. Yeah, it seems that people that have these qualities have to be overly nice at times to avoid scaring people, but I think that's better than living in fear on the opposite side of the spectrum.
True. And I can definitely related to be overly so not to scare folk. But then I was bullied alot growing up, so do my best to not treat people badly.
Purposeful intention is also a good quality that you share with your dad. It allows a person to get things done that need to get done.
Oh aye, it sure does. Though I've never been one to put off doing something. Like if I say or am asked, to get something done by or on a certain day, 9 times outta 10, I usually have it done. I won't make excuses or wait til last minute like my mum or sisters. Better getting a task done while it's fresh in yer mind. That said, I don't like being forced or pressure into doing something if I don't feel like it.