itisgoingtobefine
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This is one of the reasons why I am no good in conversations, both online and off.This seems to be my trouble too. Can't think fast enough.
In my experience if I don't think things through I tend to offend people by mistake
Do you guys really think you're too slow to say something?
The answer to one of the main questions in this thread has already been pointed out, ironically, by someone who is confused about the same question.
"as if they just blurt everything from their heads without reflecting on it first"
This is the difference. If you don't mind me generalizing, you guys reflect too much for conversation. It's not that you think too slowly, you just reflect too much. Either learn to reflect quicker (this can be accomplished) or learn to reflect less. That simple. Don't worry.
I'm the same way. I feel like I can open up more when it's just one other person.I enjoy meaningful conversations between me and just one other person. That is the only time I feel like I truly connect.
I think it's more complicated than this. I used be in a class where discussions are held frequently. During the discussions, there would usually be 1-3 people who dominated the discussion and kept on talking. And when they're done talking, another person would butt in. It's hard to contribute to discussions when these people kept dominating. Not to mention the social anxiety holds you back. It's like a race; when there are people who can think and speak faster (and more eloquently) than you, you get left behind.
It's also hard to contribute to discussions that don't interest you. I personally don't keep up with sports so when people talk about this, I have nothing to say.
I think that would be an invasion of chat room privacy. But you can go into the chatbox here: SocialPhobiaWorld.com - Smilies
I'm the same way. I feel like I can open up more when it's just one other person.
What do you want me to say? "I am in the chats right now?" Because by the time I say that you might log out or I will log out.
You are welcomed to say it is because people over the internet are not my friends. But when I go to a chatroom I always feel left out. When I sit in a crowd of people I feel left out. Most of the time I have no idea how to jump into the conversations. Another odd thing is most people seem to talk about topics that I have little or no interest in. Mainly because they are events that I haven't had the opportunity to be apart of. Or if it is something like sports, I am not good at them anyways. I don't think there is much I can do about it. I just wanted to write this to get it off my chest!
Unless you've got Aspergers: "Speed and quality of social processing - Because they respond through reasoning and not intuition, AS individuals tend to process social information more slowly than the norm, leading to uncomfortable pauses or delays in response"...you guys reflect too much for conversation. It's not that you think too slowly, you just reflect too much. Either learn to reflect quicker (this can be accomplished) or learn to reflect less. That simple. Don't worry