How do you feel when you see others enjoying with friends

[Barrier]

I hate it! I am so jealous of them. I would trade places with a really outgoing, non-anxious person who has lots of friends and a significant other without a second thought. Of course, I still realize they have problems too but at least they have support. It is rare that a person doesn't long for friendship and companionship. From an evolutionary standpoint, being alone would have been a death sentence so that trait didn't last. I think a lot of loners such as myself try to convince themselves that they like being alone but that's just denial. If you are offended by that last comment, I apologize in advance but that is just what I believe.

Full-heartedly agree.

 

[neohorizon]

Man i live in Brazil, hot chicks with mini-skirts and shorts everywhere, guys with muscles and great bodies, so many parties (country clubs)... its awful for me! seriously... specially Facebook on weekends!
And when you are in love with a girl (a friend) that love parties, hurt me so much see her with other guys!

 

[knr9311]

I have a few friends, but lately I don't enjoy my time with them. So, when I see others boasting about being with their friends I just always start wishing that I was good at making friends. I get kind of envious of their lives, truthfully.

 

[christa]

Feel like ****ing ****.

 

[dottie]

depends on my mood. sometimes it makes me happy to see other people like that. if i'm in a bad mood, i can become envious.

 

[BlackPuma]

I fight the urge/temptation to feel any negative emotions regarding other people's happiness. Happiness is hard enough to come by, and I don't feel right feeling contempt being in the wake of another's fortunes (unless he/she obtained these unfairly).

I've learned alternate ways of looking at it. In the end I simply consider appreciating/continuing other people's happiness more of an priority then gaining/maintaining it for myself.

 

[dottie]

I fight the urge/temptation to feel any negative emotions regarding other people's happiness. Happiness is hard enough to come by, and I don't feel right feeling contempt being in the wake of another's fortunes (unless he/she obtained these unfairly).

I've learned alternate ways of looking at it. In the end I simply consider appreciating/continuing other people's happiness more of an priority then gaining/maintaining it for myself.

well said.

 

[ClovizKarts]

at this moment the answer is: it sucks! envys me, depresses me...

 

[ClovizKarts]

I hate it! I am so jealous of them. I would trade places with a really outgoing, non-anxious person who has lots of friends and a significant other without a second thought. Of course, I still realize they have problems too but at least they have support. It is rare that a person doesn't long for friendship and companionship. From an evolutionary standpoint, being alone would have been a death sentence so that trait didn't last. I think a lot of loners such as myself try to convince themselves that they like being alone but that's just denial. If you are offended by that last comment, I apologize in advance but that is just what I believe.

perfectly said!!!

 

[TSOM]

Seeing other people happy in a group setting draws attention to my own inadequacies as a person. It makes me very much aware that something is "wrong" with me and I feel like I'm inferior. It kills my self-esteem, basically.

 

[PGT]

Makes me sad when i see others laughing and having fun because that used to be me. I used to have lots of friends and would go out every weekend i would always meet people that i knew from either school or work. Talking to people and making jokes was easy, being cheeky and flirty with the women always got me a dance or a kiss and sometimes more. Now most of the people i knew are either in long term relationships or married and a few have moved away to other countries. I have gone from one extreme to the other, form loads of friends and out every week to no friends and only going out 1 or 2 times a year. When i look back i would never have thought i would be in this position, i am not sure if i have the determination and courage to get back out there.