Are you able to say sorry easily

[KiaKaha]

Do you find it easy to apologize or own up to your mistakes or other short comings? I feel that most people are quite reluctant to - mostly because it's an admittance of weakness or a lack of ones judgement - although of course that is not a rule and is not always the case.

Do you yourself find it easy or somewhat difficult to apologize to others when you have done them wrong (and lets face it - ALL of us make mistakes from time to time) - if not - why not? If you do - how does it make you feel?

Lately I have been feeling a bit like Larry David from Curb your enthusiasm. I am getting pretty good at saying Sorry - lots of practice.

 

[Starry]

Yes, I find it easy to apologise... But maybe it's because I make it a rule never to apologise unless I mean it... So always genuinely meaning it, it is easy...

I actually get irritated if people apologise to me when I can see they're not genuine... I want a genuine apology or none at all.

 

[Azunyan]

Small misstakes, yes. Bigger ones i find it hard to apologize for, mainly because of embarassment.

 

[psych]

I did this just yesterday. Sat down across from a co-worker I've been having issues with... I opened with the phrase... " Life is too short."

 

[1BlackSheep]

I have no problem apologizing if I've made a mistake. I'd rather just own up to it and move on!

 

[Solitudes_Grace]

Small misstakes, yes. Bigger ones i find it hard to apologize for, mainly because of embarassment.

Same here.

 

[Labyrinthine]

i have been told that i apologize too much. :x

Same. On numerous occasions. <.<

 

[Hellhound]

If I actually screwed up, yes.

I'd refuse only if I were forced to apologize when I did nothing wrong. It's happened before.

 

[Hellhound]

i have been told that i apologize too much. :x

I sometimes do that around friends when I have the feeling I'm bothering them.

 

[coyote]

i apologize frequently, often for things i haven't done wrong, but just feel bad about not doing as well as i would have liked to or think the other person expects

i don't always apologize easily for things that other people think i'm at fault for when i don't agree - just because someone else thinks you're wrong doesn't mean you are

and i would always rather apologize to someone in private rather in public - it's embarrassing enough as it is

 

[jryden]

Its VERY hard fo rme to say sorry. Even when i feel bad, i just can't get myself to say it. Idk why.

 

[Sacrament]

Depends on what I'm apologizing for. I can be a little stubborn about that, and let my pride take the best of the situation. But if I'm genuinely wrong about something, apologizing will bring nothing but benefits. Other people won't think you're a douche, and you won't feel all that guilt that stems from being wrong and not admitting it.

 

[MrJones]

I have to problem to say I'm sorry if I'm actually sorry.
If I'm not sorry, I don't apologize.

 

[Srijita52]

i have been told that i apologize too much. :x

Same here.

 

[AGR]

Yes when I am wrong.

 

[KiaKaha]

See I have a lot of respect for people who can own their mistakes and own up to when they do wrong.
I find it quite incredible at the lengths people will go to to try and pass blame, make excuses or simply deny any wrong doing.

It is so much EASIER to admit - than to try and save face by covering up - mostly because when one does cover up or denies any wrong doing - it is very very obvious and illustrates cowardice and immaturity.

For the record, I apologize privately and publically - I think people would respect that more not only for the apology itself - but also for the courage it takes to do something like that. None of us want to admit that we are not perfect in our judgement and behaviour - and I think a little bit of humility is often refreshing for those who see it.

i don't always apologize easily for things that other people think i'm at fault for when i don't agree - just because someone else thinks you're wrong doesn't mean you are

This is interesting - and I think is one of the main reasons why people dont apologize more. It does raise an interesting question - how do you know if you have really done something wrong - whose to tell? The accuser or the defender? Just because somebody thinks you are wrong - and you happen to disagree - doesn't necessarily mean that you aren't either.

 

[Invisibleman]

Well im Canadian so yeah::. I say sorry when somebody bumps into ME.