Too Shy to answer PMs??

[bsammy]

ive heard this discussed on here in the past and ive seen it happen a few times but are there people on here that are literally too shy to even make posts on here or answer private messages??

 

[market.garden]

It takes me ages to reply to a PM - always going over what I've written. I'm like that with posts too.

I do reply though.. it's rude not to

I have a problem with starting threads though... although I was thinking of something I wanted to open a thread on earlier.

 

[Boby]

Before I came here I had very few experience with forums or any internet community.I only had a few accounts on some video game related forums and I barely posted anything on them and I would've freaked out if somebody would've PMed me.One time somebody did PMed me and I spent 30 min to compose a 2 lines replay.
But I guess everything can be practiced and improved because I feel much more comfortable now ::,especially on this forum.

 

[market.garden]

Still not comfortable with chat though. I used to go on there and talk sometimes when it was on the front page of the website a couple of years back, but in some respects, I've gotten worse since then so find chat really difficult.

 

[bsammy]

very interesting..my mother will not post on online forums, create threads etc etc..she doesnt even like to send friends messages on facebook..her SA is pretty bad..

this is one area ive never had a problem with thankfully..

 

[Srijita52]

Before I came here I had very few experience with forums or any internet community.I only had a few accounts on some video game related forums and I barely posted anything on them and I would've freaked out if somebody would've PMed me.One time somebody did PMed me and I spent 30 min to compose a 2 lines replay.
But I guess everything can be practiced and improved because I feel much more comfortable now ::,especially on this forum.

Same with me..

 

[WeirdyMcGee]

The good thing about NON-instant messages = you can take your time to create a response.

I always write things and immediately wish I hadn't bothered to post because I sound retarded-- no matter how long it took me to come up with what I'd written.
Like right now, for example.
But I write it anyways.
And if you hate it so much, you can always ask to have it deleted.

 

[Srijita52]

The good thing about NON-instant messages = you can take your time to create a response.

I always write things and immediately wish I hadn't bothered to post because I sound retarded-- no matter how long it took me to come up with what I'd written.
Like right now, for example.
But I write it anyways.
And if you hate it so much, you can always ask to have it deleted.

I can relate Weirdy, I never post anything without re reading atleast 15 times and even then it seems stupid. Its not something I can do at instant messages.

 

[Phoenixx]

For me, sometimes I am a bit too shy when answering PMs. I DO end up answering them though, but sometimes it'll take me anywhere between that day or even 4 days+ to answer a message. It really depends on how I'm feeling anxiety-wise.

As for threads, they terrify me. I've only made one ever since I've been here and it wasn't even an introduction thread. I didn't even make an introduction really when I joined, I was way too nervous. I sorta just crawled my way through posts on random threads here and there. :: It took me a good several months before I became comfortable with this place. Same goes for chat, couldn't use it at all until I was here a good 6 - 8 months.

 

[The Lost]

I have to already know the person before I'm comfortable PMing i.e. people online who I know irl. When I receive PMs, first thing I do is log out. I eventually reply since it's rude not to, but giving the impression I don't care to ensure they don't reply. Same with comments.

 

[psych]

Hell no, this is one place I actually have plenty of courage... Well, except with pictures.
(But, I did post one here anyways)
I have written private messages to people that didn't respond to previous pm's... That's my SA kicking up, making me wonder why they didn't... Then later, try to interpret why they didn't...
But, I stopped doing that after the last time, when I felt like I made a total ass out of myself.

 

[simpsons2007]

I don't have a problem replying to pm's. But that's only because I don't get any pm's to reply to. If I did get any I would really struggle to reply and think of something to say back to them.

When someone posts on a thread I had made or replied to something I've posted. I find it extremely hard to reply back to them. So most of the time I don't do it. People probably think that I'm ignoring them when I don't say anything back to there reply. But that's not the case. I just don't know what to say back to them.

 

[O'Killian]

I've opined on this in one of those past threads. I wouldn't say it's a matter of shyness, for me, more than it is a fear of being misunderstood or ignored (both of which seem to happen often enough, though I shouldn't care as much as I do). I tend to put a lot of thought and effort into whatever post I make, and sometimes I do wonder if I should even bother.

I don't generally make topics because usually it's easy enough to search and find some posts on the subject matter I'd want to make one about in the first place, which might just be an excuse, but eh.

I don't receive many PMs anywhere, though I imagine I'd be reticent to reply to the kind that come out of the blue from people I've never interacted much with.

 

[Gaucho]

it happens with me on Facebook, sometimes i think for a loooooong time, and finally don't write nothing lol

 

[ikbenrifi]

I definetely relate to this, and that doesn't concern PMs only, in fact i can not to not respond to PMs because it would be so rude, but it concerns more threads,posts and chat, i feel so shy and i run out of things to talk about instantly.
Sometimes when responding to PMs ,i do rewrite it several times in 2 or 3 days to end up not responding at all telling myself now it's too late to respond; it's virtual SA lol

 

[megalon]

It's incredibly rare that I get messages on here or facebook or anywhere, but on the occasion I do, it can take a few days before I feel up to the task of responding. Sometimes I just keep putting it off until it seems too late, and then I just end up not responding at all. As for sending the first message, out of the blue, I don't think I could ever do that. I don't want to bother anyone and waste their time spent reading it. I feel like someone needs to message me first in order for me to feel like I have permission to message them.

 

[Nathália]

The good thing about NON-instant messages = you can take your time to create a response.

I always write things and immediately wish I hadn't bothered to post because I sound retarded-- no matter how long it took me to come up with what I'd written.
Like right now, for example.
But I write it anyways.
And if you hate it so much, you can always ask to have it deleted.

I feel that all the time, I regret many of my post, but I still do it along with conversation with people on the forum. It sometimes can take me 30 mins to reply to someone like Boby said.

It's like my words look funny compared to other peoples words. I can IM sometimes; I try to open up the chat box every now and then to try. Then the PM's I over think them.

 

[JCVA]

I`m not really too shy answering PMs. For me, its the other way around. Whenever I try PM someone, I get a little anxious. There are so many times where I have typed messages, only to be erased and never sent because of my anxiety of what the receiving person will think.

 

[johannes]

i don't get PMs and i'm not shy answering them, so get to it!!

 

[NP88]

that's pretty much why i prefer instant messaging -- i just let it all out (in blips) and press enter before i can overanalyze what i just typed. ::

This is exactly what I do.