Rejection therapy 101

[deleted #89]

I will be trying this for 30 days in a week. I could explain it but im kind of lazy today....so read it up and tell me what you think. If rejection is something you take too personally then this stuff will surely desensitize you....

Link: About Rejection Therapy Rejection Therapy

DO IT FOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO

 

[KiaKaha]

I would be interested to see how this goes for you. I like the idea...not sure if I can do something like that myself just yet.

 

[deleted #89]

I would be interested to see how this goes for you. I like the idea...not sure if I can do something like that myself just yet.

When you think about it Social Anxiety is literally fear of being rejected. That's all....Personally I try to avoid rejection like if it was a tuberculosis plague and I know that the more I will get rejected the less fear I will anticipate. I'll let you know for sure how it goes...

 

[megalon]

If rejection is something you take too personally then this stuff will surely desensitize you....

Desensitize you... or push you over the edge and destroy any remaining sanity
I think it has potential to work well if you have the courage, I don't at this point.

 

[UnOccupied]

Love the idea. Check this article out from a site i read a lot for self-help. Hope this helps a little. Embracing Rejection

I have been scared to embarc on the rejection journey. I keep telling myself, i will start soon, and never do...like i'm always waiting for that perfect day to start, but it never comes...let me know how it goes, and maybe we can be a team of social experimenters.

 

[deleted #89]

Love the idea. Check this article out from a site i read a lot for self-help. Hope this helps a little. Embracing Rejection

I have been scared to embarc on the rejection journey. I keep telling myself, i will start soon, and never do...like i'm always waiting for that perfect day to start, but it never comes...let me know how it goes, and maybe we can be a team of social experimenters.

That's why I ordered the cards. Each one gives you a suggestion to get rejected ..... I have tons of ideas on how to get rejected but I feel that physically the cards will bring me structure. lol

That's a great article btw ....

 

[deleted #89]

Here are some ideas that I will try out:

Rejection Therapy - The Real Life Game | Hacker News

 

[UnOccupied]

What is your biggest fear about approaching people?

I can't tell if mine is getting rejected, or just having the other person think i'm weird. I guess that is a form of rejection. But, i find that sometimes, i can muster up the courage to talk to someone new, but I tend to freeze up after the conversation starts. So, is that rejection, or is it my inability to talk after i start a conversation?

 

[SeniorRedrings]

I do take rejection personally,and I don't ever not want to feel that way.
Rejection is personal,no matter how many techniques we employ to trick ourselves into thinking otherwise.
One day however I do want to feel strong enough to go up to someone who has just rejected me,grab their head and forcibly hold it in place while I cry directly onto their face.
This way I hope to make them feel how it is to be in that moment.

 

[Apersonalan]

I do take rejection personally,and I don't ever not want to feel that way.
Rejection is personal,no matter how many techniques we employ to trick ourselves into thinking otherwise.
One day however I do want to feel strong enough to go up to someone who has just rejected me,grab their head and forcibly hold it in place while I cry directly onto their face.
This way I hope to make them feel how it is to be in that moment.

Very strong. I can just imagine it too haha funny your crying and now the person is creeped out, the ultimate revenge on someone!

The way I solve rejection is like the way I solve bullying, even though it's really hard I just see things from the other the persons point of view. I don't agree but it does at the very least make me feel better and not with a clenched fist of rage. People who reject you are *******s but you can feel better by both hating them and knowing more.

 

[SeniorRedrings]

Hating them and knowing more.I like that.
You walk the walk and talk the talk of the wise man....super frank.

 

[deleted #89]

Rejection therapy experiment/trials.

So today I did a little experiment with rejection therapy. Before going to work I decided to try and get REJECTED.

Situation 1

Location: A random tanning salon.

Me: Hi, I have a weeding coming up this weekend and I would really like to get a nice tan to look good. I don't want to pay tho...

Clerk: What?

Me: I want to get a session and would like to get it for free.

Clerk: No sorry

RESULT: REJECTED

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Situation 2: In the city bus

Me: Hey can I have your seat.

Random guy: No

Result: REJECTED


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Situation 3:

Location: Sandwich shop

Me: Hi, your food looks really good and im starving to death is it possible for me to get something for free.

Worker 1: Euh.....give me a second. ( talks to worker 2 )

Worker 2 : Let me ask the owner.

(Owner looks at me and come and see me. I explain him what I want.)

Owner: Who are you?

Me: Im just a costumer.

Owner: OK give him a Cesar salad !

Result: FAIL no rejection but I got a free Cesar salad !

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Summary: People are not always comfortable rejecting other people. I also need to put myself in situation were the rejection makes me more uncomfortable but in overall I can see how Rejection therapy can really make you less self-conscience and less afraid. Soon I will start the 30 days rejection therapy and can really see the benefits for me......



* IF YOU HAVE ANY SUGGESTION FOR SITUATIONs LET ME KNOW. NO DISRESPECTFUL OR MEAN SITUATIONS......


To be continued.........

 

[UnOccupied]

I think you guys have rejection all wrong. There is no reason to get so upset when getting rejected. That is the whole point of Mr.Wonderfuls experiment. If you get rejected enough, you begin to realize that nothing inside of you really changes when you get rejected. Yes, your ego may take a little hit, but after all, the ego is not real anyway. Realizing that rejection is no big deal is a key point in the development of ones life. Most go on without facing this social fear, but those of us who face it directly, live much grander lives.

Not everyone is going to like you, it is a fact. Just because a girl you ask out says no does not mean you should hate or wish pain upon that person. It simply means you two didn't have chemistry, and thats it.

 

[deleted #89]

I think you guys have rejection all wrong. There is no reason to get so upset when getting rejected. That is the whole point of Mr.Wonderfuls experiment. If you get rejected enough, you begin to realize that nothing inside of you really changes when you get rejected. Yes, your ego may take a little hit, but after all, the ego is not real anyway. Realizing that rejection is no big deal is a key point in the development of ones life. Most go on without facing this social fear, but those of us who face it directly, live much grander lives.

Not everyone is going to like you, it is a fact. Just because a girl you ask out says no does not mean you should hate or wish pain upon that person. It simply means you two didn't have chemistry, and thats it.

I COULD HAVE NOT SAID IT BETTER DUDE......YOU GET IT.

I ordered the cards from the site if you want I can send you copies once I get them.............

 

[UnOccupied]

Mr.Wonderful, great first trial of rejection. It seems like you're doing a lot of rejection therapy with asking for things people wouldn't normally give you. Were you also planning on doing some that involve talking to different girls(or guys)? Thats where my fear of rejection is most prevalent. When i want to talk to new guys or girls, and get scared.

 

[Aletheia]

no self

Embracing rejection: The downside of being labelled “intelligent” or “attractive” or “hard-working” is that our ego requires constant reinforcement of this identity.

Interesting. Buddhist philosophy has a lot to say about how we become invested in the structure of "identity", which is why we feel so fiercely defensive when it is threatened. But if we can embrace a more fluid sense of self that is less tightly defined by labels, that is able to change, then there's nothing to defend, and we can much more easily deal with come what may.

 

[deleted #89]

Mr.Wonderful, great first trial of rejection. It seems like you're doing a lot of rejection therapy with asking for things people wouldn't normally give you. Were you also planning on doing some that involve talking to different girls(or guys)? Thats where my fear of rejection is most prevalent. When i want to talk to new guys or girls, and get scared.

Absolutely ... today was a spur of the moment kind of a thing. Like you my fears are more with meeting a new girl or guy. I'm going to write down situation were there is more of a personal interaction with people.

 

[deleted #89]

Re: no self

Interesting. Buddhist philosophy has a lot to say about how we become invested in the structure of "identity", which is why we feel so fiercely defensive when it is threatened. But if we can embrace a more fluid sense of self that is less tightly defined by labels, that is able to change, then there's nothing to defend, and we can much more easily deal with come what may.

Exactly what I want to achieve....im the next BUDDHA.

 

[coyote]

studying the classic eastern treatises on warfare and the martial arts (influenced heavily by taoism and zen buddhism) you'll find that the greatest warriors are not the fastest, strongest, fiercest, meanest, most hateful, or most fearful.

instead, the greatest warriors are those who are able to detach themselves from worldly concerns - to, in effect, live as though they are already dead.

because if you have no ego, no self, no permanent presence here in this world - then the only thing that can be harmed by an enemy is your corporeal body (which is fated to expire anyway).

and if no weapon can harm you, you are invincible....


the same idea applies to dating and social interaction

(except without all the swordfighting and stuff)

 

[KiaKaha]

Oh man...that is hilarious.. if nothing else, its sheer entertainment. I wish I had the balls to try something like this...