can't approach women

[Bittersweet]

As I said above, I'm naturally a determined person and I won't give up on anything on a whim. I don't like it when the words 'give' and 'up' follow each other in a sentence. It goes against everything that I am about. I'm passionate about not only recovering myself but I don't want other people to be going through the same thing as me and I care about the people on this forum.

I admire your determination to stay positive, as well as your desire to help others. All the best in what you're trying to do in your life.

 

[emre43]

I admire your determination to stay positive, as well as your desire to help others. All the best in what you're trying to do in your life.

Thank you very much. The thing is that in recent months I have been improving and there is no reason why other people can't as well.

 

[hulkamaniak]

@ emre43, you are on a SA forum, some people aren't positive like you and are depressed and will post negative posts, get over it, if you really just want positivity and posts about rainbows and butterflys, I'd change to a different forum

 

[emre43]

@ emre43, you are on a SA forum, some people aren't positive like you and are depressed and will post negative posts, get over it, if you really just want positivity and posts about rainbows and butterflys, I'd change to a different forum

Have you read any of my posts? I didn't say I want butterflies and rainbows and 100% positive comments and I acknowledged that people are depressed. But there are also some people that aren't depressed and don't want to be put into the mindset that may lead to them becoming so. I've been posting messages of support to people. If Drganon had posted his comment in his own thread I would have offered my support to him as well. But the OP in this thread wanted support. Why does somebody need to post something that isn't in any way, shape or form supporting or comforting to not only me, but for anybody who genuinely wants to recover in a thread which is asking for the complete opposite of what he provided?

 

[coyote]

...Why does somebody need to post something that isn't in any way, shape or form supporting or comforting to not only me, but for anybody who genuinely wants to recover in a thread which is asking for the complete opposite of what he provided?

perhaps, as i suggested, because he is looking for help, too

perhaps we can lend HIM some support as well?

 

[emre43]

perhaps, as i suggested, because he is looking for help, too

perhaps we can lend HIM some support as well?

I completely understand that. As I said in my previous post why not start a new thread in which I would have posted a message of support to him. But in a thread in which someone is asking for support, why offer the complete opposite? I'm not trying to annoy or wind anybody up with my comments, I'm actually trying to do the opposite and help people. I genuinely try to be positive and help people even when I'm not feeling great myself.

 

[Magicmuffin]

I'm shy with approaching guys. I guess one just has to grab tight your balls and go talk to that person. But it IS frightening

 

[Beatmetrics]

Well my thoughts are...for one you tried in the most sincerest way possible, great job. However it didn't work. You begin to develop "your game" per say.

If your really just trying to get this one person...you may have to feel them out. If one is too much go gentler if one is passive your have to go harder. But once some starts calling ya stalker or what ever just claim game over. That other person is clearly not the one you should be with and you could probably catch someone with a better personality. Because if they can't come to you about this and tell you "i'm sorry but I'm just not that into you" you don't need them. They just get joy from your pain and so basically there are better fish in the sea.

 

[mrbryan3]

the first question that i think you should ask yourself is "were you stalking her?" because though teens can exaggerate situations and be more cruel than adults with rejection, most girls won't just outright lie when making an accusation like that.. i think you should evaluate what you might've said or did (even just staring longingly in class) that would've called for such a negative and drastic response from her.. and in the future don't repeat any behaviors from that scenario...

I understand what you are saying. However before I asked her I was warned that she was a bitch and stuckup by different people. But I didnt listen. It didnt go into like court or restraining order or anything like that. Her parents even thought it was ridiculous. I think its cause I was a quiet guy not really in the in crowd. Unfortunately it was a response to her being appalled that a guy like i WAS in hs would even dare to ask out a cheerleader/dance captain. Also we were friends until I crossed that line. It was uncalled for and shouldnt have happened. Because of it I took even more of a loner attitude and kind of became comfortable with it

 

[mrbryan3]

In my mind, they are always going to say no, so I don't even bother. Trying is the first step towards failure.

honestly ive gotten to the pt where i'd rather be alone because theres no anxiety. Id rather focus on other things and tell everyone else to get out of the f'ng way. if society didnt say you have to date and get married i wouldnt give a ****. so really i feel the same way you do.