Does anyone feel like a robot when they talk to people?
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Reholla
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rko74 said:Sometimes when i talk to people outside my comfort zone i feel like a "robot" and almost snobish or something.Like i cant act silly or goofy and when i laugh it feels fake or something? Is that normal?
Hey I agree with you and to answer your question, it's normal I guess for people with SA..but what is normal? WHo knows anymore..
Its hard because I dont WANT to focus on saying the right thing, but thats what happens everytime. And I dont go off my surroundings...i have this preconceived idea of what the conversation is supposed to be like and when it doesnt happen, inside I freak out...
If thats the same thing youre talking about, I know exactly what you mean. To have a good, flowing conversation you have to be "vulnerable" in a way. For this what helps is just try to focus on the present...dont obssess, and really you will get over this with practice and time.
Richey
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it happens to me at work at the bistro i work at with all the staff, ill start a conversation and stumble over my words because im nervous and i know it freaks them out, i can tell by their facial expressions that they want to go and i come across as serious or i cant think of the right words fast enough and at its worst i would sometimes make up a scenario mid conversation because my thoughts were bundled up and confused, so i would just say anything, so at the moment i try and slow down alot more and make sure im genuine, its better to be honest then make up words just to look interesting, and i know what you mean about feeling like a robot, you try so hard to make an impression that the words dont come and that person responds all jokingly and goofy and i respond with this serious response, and i beat myself up internally and i have to say working in a bistro or a bar can be a nigtmare for people with SA, i need to get out of that job because its helped as much as its been awkward, its all about practice letting loose and feeling relaxed in conversation is such a challenge.
paul
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hey rko, i can totally relate to what you're saying, infact my classmates often like to call me "servo" which is the name of a robot in a computer game (The Sims) heh heh. also, i "walk robotically" and "smile robotically" (apparently I don't smile with my eyes? is that even possible? heh heh.) us SA people, such robots! :roll:
rko74
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robot feeling conversations
Just thought i would chime in a bit more, yeah i hate feeling like i sound "robotic".I just got done talking to a friend i made from the social skills class i was doing and i thought i sounded very robotic like.Maybe cause i was talking over a internet mic.I even said to him do i sound ok, he said yeah you sound good, even though i felt differently.Its hard to describe but i cant be the goofy person i normally am in my comfort zone {at home}.He can like say anything on the mic and i feel like restricted or something.I went over to kingsway garden mall tonight in the city to meet up with him and his friend and we walked around and went back to his place and eat icecream etc lol.I felt a little more myself there than talking over a internet mic though.I guess the best way to describe the "robot" feeling is like talking to a telemarketer lol.The way the have no emotion in their words.I feel kinda like that, but not really as bad.I hate it though cause i worry people with think im too serious, cause im actually the reverse.
Just thought i would chime in a bit more, yeah i hate feeling like i sound "robotic".I just got done talking to a friend i made from the social skills class i was doing and i thought i sounded very robotic like.Maybe cause i was talking over a internet mic.I even said to him do i sound ok, he said yeah you sound good, even though i felt differently
.Its hard to describe but i cant be the goofy person i normally am in my comfort zone {at home}.He can like say anything on the mic and i feel like restricted or something.I went over to kingsway garden mall tonight in the city to meet up with him and his friend and we walked around and went back to his place and eat icecream etc lol.I felt a little more myself there than talking over a internet mic though.I guess the best way to describe the "robot" feeling is like talking to a telemarketer lol.The way the have no emotion in their words.I feel kinda like that, but not really as bad.I hate it though cause i worry people with think im too serious, cause im actually the reverse.CHAKRAPOINT
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same here,its as if my mind and attention is only thinking bout what the people are thinking that i lose my train of thought easily and end up scrambling for something to say to finish my sentence and end up stuttering and with a loss of words,i feel as if every second i try to find the next word to say the longer i delay i feel as the listeners will look at me like i cant talk which does happen which makes me even more self conscious and lose my train of even more and end up looking like someone who is very absent minded
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I wouldn't say I feel like a robot or snobbish, I feel more like a vegetable! I want to be myself, but no matter how hard I try I just can't let it out. It doesn't help that the rare occassion that I've tried to be myself, some jack-ass has to try and exploit my insecurity.
Mehh
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With me I guess I sound robotic, but it's more that I sound insincere. Like if I'm talking to somebody new I tend to sound very animated (which I'm really not) and seem really excited to talk to them. I'm really just trying to be nice, but I'm afraid it just comes off as insincere and disinterested. Maybe even desperate. But anyway, I get like that a lot when I feel uncomfortable, and I never really add anything to the conversation, only robotic responses. Or I'm overly polite, which can make the other person feel uncomfortable. :/
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