SA Makes me want to hide who i really am....

[nunvangus]

Ok i really dont want to sound vain or conceited with this and im sorry if it comes across that way to anyone but....
I would consider myself a fairly attractive girl im nothing special but i think im ok looking. I find that being a girl, men will naturally look at you. So if im walking down the street and a man starts to look or shouts something out i find it makes my SA so much worse!

I like to dress very flamboyant... lots of bright colours, red lipstick, heels etc as thats in my personality and i dont see why i should suppress that but when i try and be myself my SA jumps up and slaps me in the face! Deep down i am a very bubbly, confident person (she just likes to hide sometimes : . I dont want to be any less of myself because of my social anxiety but thats how it makes me feel

 

[coyote]

i had to ask a friend today - "be totally honest with me - are women staring at me because I look weird or what?"

she said - "no, it's because you really look good today. you always dress nicely and your beard is growing in - it looks very sexy!"

our own opinion of ourself is often our worst enemy

 

[Silvox Black]

It is a clash between wanting to be noticed and yet fearing it, yes? You will need to learn how to rid yourself of that social anxiety by building up your confidence. I am certain that others on this forum will be more than willing to support you. The way you feel is not something to be guilty or ashamed of, it is perfectly understandable as many of us suffer from it.

 

[Sial Axetder]

i had to ask a friend today - "be totally honest with me - are women staring at me because I look weird or what?"

she said - "no, it's because you really look good today. you always dress nicely and your beard is growing in - it looks very sexy!"

our own opinion of ourself is often our worst enemy

Agreed.
How to ignore self?

 

[Silvox Black]

Agreed.
How to ignore self?

Well not all of the self is self-deprecating except for a certain portion of it. It is simply a matter of balance.

 

[Blaze]

Thinking you look "fairly attractive" is not being conceited at all. It's good that you can actually be honest and content with yourself, as opposed to constantly berating yourself.

I don't think I am the best looking guy, but I have enough people telling me otherwise so I don't have to listen to that evil voice in the back of my mind(I'm speaking figuratively).

 

[coyote]

Thinking you look "fairly attractive" is not being conceited at all. It's good that you can actually be honest and content with yourself, as opposed to constantly berating yourself.

I don't think I am the best looking guy, but I have enough people telling me otherwise so I don't have to listen to that evil voice in the back of my mind(I'm speaking figuratively).

that's awesome!

that's, like, 80% of the battle, right there!

 

[Sial Axetder]

Well not all of the self is self-deprecating except for a certain portion of it. It is simply a matter of balance.

Simple is often masked by the more obvious, difficult.

 

[Silvox Black]

Simple is often masked by the more obvious, difficult.

But of course, balance is something many strive for, hence it is not easy.