Feeling like I'm not a priority

[HeadFace]

I'm not saying I should be treated like an attention whore, but a lot of the times I just feel like everything and everyone else is way more important than me, to everyone else. Like everyone would rather be talking or hanging out with someone else besides me.
Anyone else know what I'm talking about?
(Got an errrand to run, I'll update this in a sec)
(Back)
Anyway, I just feel like there are certain friends/people who could make a way better effort, to see me. And I start to think they choose not to because, because they'd rather be with anyone else except myself. And the more I think about it, the more Istart thinking that I'll never be a priority. And that get's me depressed, which can even lead to slip ups (mostly just cutting and smoking. Sometimes overeating)

 

[Jake123]

lol I feel like that sometimes. Just the other day I was stood up because my "friend" made plans with someone else

 

[Feathers]

Hm, do you mean in RL or on this forum? (Or elsewhere online?)

 

[Rodney]

I always feel that I am the last person on the list of people to get together with. I had a few friends that used to ask me to hang out almost exclusively when they didn't have a car (suspicious, no?). After awhile I started ignoring their calls. It's the same with family gatherings. I feel like I am the one cousin/nephew that no one cares to talk to.

 

[HeadFace]

lol I feel like that sometimes. Just the other day I was stood up because my "friend" made plans with someone else

Yeah... I just updated the first post, but I know exactly what you mean. Whenever I want to hang out with a friend, they say theey will, at first. But when the date comes closer, sometimes they act distant, and eventually either doesnt answer my calls, or respond to my texts. Or just say they have somewhere else to go.

Hm, do you mean in RL or on this forum? (Or elsewhere online?)

I gave up with all of my old friends that I made via internet. I still talk to one though. And a couple others when I'm bored. But no, I meant in real life.

 

[HeadFace]

And it's rather sad, as well. My girlfriend tells me she loves me, and that I "know [she] would if [she] could". Whenever I hear this, or read this in an IM/text all I can do is feel that sinking feeling in my heart, and give a sigh. Because, to me, it's not true.
I'm not quite sure though... Maybe I'm just being obsessive.

 

[Feathers]

And it's rather sad, as well. My girlfriend tells me she loves me, and that I "know [she] would if [she] could". .

That's just weird. What does she mean 'she would if she could' (?)
One day she loves you and one day she can't? odd..

Okay if you have a gf chances are your mates feel uncomfortable about hanging around with you if they are still single (?) Or do they have gfs too? Then maybe those don't let 'em go out so much anymore.. It happens..

Things change a lot when some people 'hook up' and others are still 'single and free' (and possibly jealous or just interested in different ways of spending time..)

 

[EscapeArtist]

I know how you feel, I know others are not interested in me, the people who I know would rather hang out with somebody else. I'm pretty depressing lately also. So I try and spare people by not being around others, because I agree with them, their attention is better used on somebody else. I wish others would pay me more attention, but I do feel like i'd be asking too much of them. I too turn to harmful coping mechanisms, over-eating, sometimes drinking or weed. I dont really know what I'm looking for in friendships, because they don't satisfy my need to..connect with somebody, as much as I need to. They always seem distracted, by text messaging, technology, economy, stress, other friends.. yeah, text messaging should just go die.

 

[HeadFace]

That's just weird. What does she mean 'she would if she could' (?)
One day she loves you and one day she can't? odd..

Okay if you have a gf chances are your mates feel uncomfortable about hanging around with you if they are still single (?) Or do they have gfs too? Then maybe those don't let 'em go out so much anymore.. It happens..

Things change a lot when some people 'hook up' and others are still 'single and free' (and possibly jealous or just interested in different ways of spending time..)

No. Thats not at all what I was implying. I meant shed hang out wih me if she could, and thinks I should 'know' that.
And trust me, my mates wouldnt ditch me over somethin like that. This has been going on even before, and Ive just been thinking about it more and more recently.

 

[fitftw]

you know, this kind of crap happened to me, so I started doing it to everyone else.

If I'm not important, neither is anyone else.

 

[HeadFace]

I know how you feel, I know others are not interested in me, the people who I know would rather hang out with somebody else. I'm pretty depressing lately also. So I try and spare people by not being around others, because I agree with them, their attention is better used on somebody else. I wish others would pay me more attention, but I do feel like i'd be asking too much of them. I too turn to harmful coping mechanisms, over-eating, sometimes drinking or weed. I dont really know what I'm looking for in friendships, because they don't satisfy my need to..connect with somebody, as much as I need to. They always seem distracted, by text messaging, technology, economy, stress, other friends.. yeah, text messaging should just go die.

Ah, I know exactly what you mean. It just feels like they'll find anything else to spend their time on, besides, well, me.

you know, this kind of crap happened to me, so I started doing it to everyone else.

If I'm not important, neither is anyone else.

I do this too often. Lol, I eventually can't keep it up and end up texting them, or trying to talk to them again.

 

[fitftw]

well I'm assuming you're female. Women tend to have a harder time avoiding contact with people than men do. At least that's what I think.

 

[HeadFace]

well I'm assuming you're female. Women tend to have a harder time avoiding contact with people than men do. At least that's what I think.

I'm insulted. I'm a male.