Finding Supportive People

[guessed]

I want to find supportive people to surround myself with. Lately I've realized two things that come in the way of finding those people.

The first is that I keep trying to gain the approval of people who have a low opinion of me. I keep trying to get them to change their minds. I feel like I need their blessing, so to speak. I don't know why I do this.

Also, I realized that I don't feel worthy enough to have decent, honest, caring supportive friends, nor do I feel that I would be able to return such support to another.

Do any of you feel this way or have you experienced these things and gotten to the other side of it? Any advice would be welcome.

 

[EscapeArtist]

I feel this way exactly, but I haven't gotten to the other side ... It's hard to persuade yourself that you deserve support. When I hear it, I always think people are faking it, and if it's genuine then I am freaked out and run (I don't literally run). Wish I could be of more help, I'd too like to know how to find and accept support.

 

[unleashed]

peoples support only last until theyre either bored and have a new project or until they get sick of me

 

[EscapeArtist]

peoples support only last until theyre either bored and have a new project or until they get sick of me

Exactly.

 

[NathanielWingatePeaslee]

I'm thinking the people most likely to give you reliable support (and, I suppose, believable) are those who have similar problems.

 

[Gideon.Waller]

do you find support here? I think most people are very supportive...

 

[Gideon.Waller]

on the forums, at least, I mean

 

[guessed]

yes I have found supportive people on the forums. It's just in real life that it's more difficult.

 

[Damaged]

Yeah, people say they will but never live up to what they say because they don't understand.

I am a very supportive positive person, so anyone who needs someone whether its on here or in real life id be happy to help out and be friends with them =)

 

[garry29]

I think I'm lucky than most as I still have some people who support me even though I'm undeserving of it.