I feel very guilty every time I post something. Like I'm going to be hated or judged. Especially by posting this now. Oh well
I feel very guilty every time I post something. Like I'm going to be hated or judged. Especially by posting this now. Oh well
I don't really understand why you guys would feel guilty. I mean you're meant to feel guilty when you've done something wrong right? Why would you feel guilty for posting? I don't get it.
I feel stupid a lot of the time after I post. I tend to go on a bit too much but don't realize til after I've hit 'post reply'. I also miss the point a lot I think and go off on my own tangent. I also say too much about my personal life which I regret later...I've considered deleting some of my old posts where I feel that I have divulged more than what I'm comfortable with, but end up leaving it because I think 'well all these people have already seen it I may as well leave it now or I'll look weak'... idk :/
I think it's also partly because I rarely feel like the issue I'm making a thread about is not important enough, and robes attention away from those who deserve it more. When it comes to posting to someone else's thread I feel like the advice isn't going to benefit them, and so might do more harm then good.
nawww, thanks :]I can totally relate to that. Though, I must say, I've read some of your posts on other threads, and I've never seen you post something that made you sound weak. More insightful, really. :3
For me it was more on other sites and forums. I'd try to reach out, talk to them, say all the wrong things and they'd just say something nice but dismissive and leave. The shame of that just kinda stuck with me I guess, even amongst those who suffer the same way. Maybe what Sundaygirl said was right, and it just takes some time to get used to the non-hostile way of communicating around. C;
Oh I see, I get where you're coming from then, and come to think of it, I think I've felt that way too. Of course no one deserves more attention than another, but I'm sure you already know that. I do sometimes withhold from posting a reply in threads in case what I have to say won't help them or like you said, may do more harm then good, and also for the reasons I was speaking about earlier, so I understand where you're coming from.
Yes, I get what you mean there about trying to help and getting a pretty dismissive response. It sticks with me for a little while as well, it probably does with everyone. Just try not to take it to heart I guess?
It took a while for me to feel comfortable enough to say what I wanted to say without feeling silly about it. Sunday girl is right, it just takes a little time to observe how the place works and get comfortable.
I think there will always be a times when people may feel under-appreciated in a forum or similar feelings at one time or another, but I think that everyone's input is appreciated really, even if no one expresses so. There's been times when I have whole-heartedly agreed with someone's opinion, or have thought that the advice someone had given to another person is great but haven't said so, maybe showing our appreciation is something we should all do more often?
Well, this is my first post on this forum so I'll tell you!!
I’m not sure if 'guilty' is how I would describe it but I definitely feel anxious. Actually on other forums I would freak out but I feel a bit more relaxed knowing that others here probably feel the same as I do. Sometimes I can re-read a post several times, then stare at the submit button for ages before I summon the courage to submit. At times, hours after posting the anxiety gets too much so I go back and delete the post for fear of making a fool of myself.