I feel so stupid :(

BlackKids

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Anyone who knows me / has read my posts knows I've always made a big deal about safe sex. I've always been extra careful and I've known my partners history.
Anyway I was feeling lonely so I picked up a random girl in a bar (result right). We had a great time (well I know I did lol ). Afterwards I noticed the condom broke and now I want to throw up. I hope I haven't f**ked up years of acting sensibility

I've had about 4 showers since yesterday lol I'm laughing but man do I wanna cry :(
 

Newtype

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You might wanna worry about the girl being pregnant too. Sorry for scaring you even more o_0
 

mads

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Anyone who knows me / has read my posts knows I've always made a big deal about safe sex. I've always been extra careful and I've known my partners history.
Anyway I was feeling lonely so I picked up a random girl in a bar (result right). We had a great time (well I know I did lol ). Afterwards I noticed the condom broke and now I want to throw up. I hope I haven't f**ked up years of acting sensibility

I've had about 4 showers since yesterday lol I'm laughing but man do I wanna cry :(

A broken condom can happen for everyone. Just take it easy mate:)

Dont worry about it.

Even though it broke, it doesnt mean that anything happened.

So again just take it easy and think about that you had a great time.
 

mads

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You might wanna worry about the girl being pregnant too. Sorry for scaring you even more o_0

There is really no need to worry about it, when he dont know the answer. You can change anything of it.

First of all, we dont know if she took birth control pills, we dont know when her ovulation , so we really cant say anything about this at all.

And if they are both worried for some reason, then she can take some emergency contraception.
 

Septor

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Oh that must make you feel bad.It would drive me crazy too.You just have to put it into perspective and try not think about to much,for all you know nothing hapen.The thing is,more you think about it,the worse it will seem in your mind.

I know that's all easier said then done unfortunately.

Good luck
 

Newtype

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There is really no need to worry about it, when he dont know the answer. You can change anything of it.

First of all, we dont know if she took birth control pills, we dont know when her ovulation , so we really cant say anything about this at all.

And if they are both worried for some reason, then she can take some emergency contraception.

I don't understand your reasoning there. Not knowing anything about her is exactly why he should worry about it and emergency contraception doesn't always work, especially if too much time passes before she realizes it.
 

Tangent

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Your condom broke?!? Holy shyte!! It really can happen to anyone!

I think I just found another reason to wait until I'm in a stable relationship for some time before having sex, like say, until I'm married. Human life is to precious to screw up so I don't think I'd want to risk having kids with someone unless I was completely and mutually in love with them.

Sorry to hear what happened and thanks for sharing your story. I think there is a very good lesson to be learned here.

Wow! I guess the pope had a point when he said that abstinence outside of, and fidelity within marriage were the best way to prevent the spread of AIDS :eek:
 
Your condom broke?!? Holy shyte!! It really can happen to anyone!

I think I just found another reason to wait until I'm in a stable relationship for some time before having sex, like say, until I'm married. Human life is to precious to screw up so I don't think I'd want to risk having kids with someone unless I was completely and mutually in love with them.

Sorry to hear what happened and thanks for sharing your story. I think there is a very good lesson to be learned here.

Wow! I guess the pope had a point when he said that abstinence outside of, and fidelity within marriage were the best way to prevent the spread of AIDS :eek:

Yeah... pretty much sums it up. I think that even with the best precautions, sex should only be had by married couples but then again I'm probably in the minority here. Still, that's what I think.
 

FOR REAL

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I picked up a random girl in a bar (result right). We had a great time (well I know I did lol ).

sounds like a great night:) can i go with you next time mate:)

seriously though, i wouldnt worry too much, everything usually works out fine in the end.
 

mads

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I don't understand your reasoning there. Not knowing anything about her is exactly why he should worry about it and emergency contraception doesn't always work, especially if too much time passes before she realizes it.

I mean that there is no need to be stressed about it. It will not change it. He should of course call her but I am sure they both know the the condom broke.

But he has to remember that is not his fault that the condom broke. That happends some times,
 

mads

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Your condom broke?!? Holy shyte!! It really can happen to anyone!

I think I just found another reason to wait until I'm in a stable relationship for some time before having sex, like say, until I'm married. Human life is to precious to screw up so I don't think I'd want to risk having kids with someone unless I was completely and mutually in love with them.

Sorry to hear what happened and thanks for sharing your story. I think there is a very good lesson to be learned here.

Wow! I guess the pope had a point when he said that abstinence outside of, and fidelity within marriage were the best way to prevent the spread of AIDS :eek:

But if she should had become pregnant, which is probably very unlikely, then she can just have an abortion if she dont want the child. But there is always a risk of getting pregnant if you have sex. That is the way it is but the best way to prevent AIDS or other sexually diseases is by using protection and nothing else.
 

BlackKids

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Chances are ill never hear from her again. She told me she was on birth control but I'm more worried about aids or whatever. She knows the situation ( I think me shouting out FFS gave it away lol ) and she did seem worried so I'm gonna take comfort in that

Nothing I can do now like. Properly go back to thinking with my head but that's easier said than done lol
 
Hey it's not like YOU'RE the girl. All you have to worry about is an STD. You can get rid of STD's...not babies....
 

mads

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Chances are ill never hear from her again. She told me she was on birth control but I'm more worried about aids or whatever. She knows the situation ( I think me shouting out FFS gave it away lol ) and she did seem worried so I'm gonna take comfort in that

Nothing I can do now like. Properly go back to thinking with my head but that's easier said than done lol

Ok she is on birth control. That is a good thing. If you are worried about AIDS or any other STD, then you should contact your doctor. Being there and knowing nothing about that just makes you more stressed, and being stressed and worried is not a healthy thing I can tell you.
 
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