Kustamogen
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yah I didnt read that
shes was 87 , old people know it all but young people just look at them and ignore them ... they have lived a full life and know more than we do ......
That's because you spend more of your life being older, and less attractive than young and attractive and she knows that in the end its all about compatibility. Is it more important to chase after the hot imbecile or someone who you find sufficiently attractive physically and mentally so you will get along and have something to talk about the rest of your lives?
old people know it all but young people just look at them and ignore them ... they have lived a full life and know more than we do ......
because the timidness is so attracting, mysterious, cool guys are stereotypical, u know all about them, the girls, the partying.. timid guys usual have a lot to them.. and we want to get to know that...my opinion..
lol. IMO most girls don't like the timid. or at least, they never even get a chance to get to know them because they are so timid themselves! Ie, the women also expect the man to do everything, be aggressive and deviant, etc etc etc.
like I said above, girls are attracte to deviant people because in our history it was deviance and violence, aggressiveness that got us success and a mate. Even though that's changed now there are still people that believe it's inherent in us to be that way.
I think any kind of pity-party/negativity complex is a turn off to both sexes, a lack of self esteem is not appealing to others, lets face it, a potential suiter is looking to be you lover not your therapist
Whoa... Stop the horse mate! When I am "old" like in my 80's, (if I live that long) I will more than likely still hold the "V" card and have no experiences socializing with most... Just saying you can't assume that all old people know anything more than we do. Yeah they might have lived a long life, but if it's anything like my life right now.... I would say that I would be a poor one to give advice on a date, or a relationship or sex... Because I have not had any experiences AT ALL, and probably never will. So with me being 41 years old now, a 16 year old might be the one to ask for relationship advice depending on their maturity and experience... Food for thought mate!
When you get old old, like 80's you start just speaking your mind because you've lived life and have nothing to lose really and most people will give you leeway to say whatever is on your mind. At least that's what I hope I'm like when I'm elderly.
You still have time. I try to tell myself that when I think about why I'm not married/involved with anyone. I hope that somehow I can think about what I'm personally interested in and maybe if I get around the people who are also like me, I'll have a better shot. I haven't figured it out either but I have some hope. The internet for instance I think is a huge boon to our kind.
My only experiences with sexuality with another person have been unpleasant. But I still have the longing for intimacy. So I understand the desire for that even in the face of the bad taste in my mouth about it.
To No1:
Relationships seem to work best when a role is fulfilled on each side. That tends to be the "submissive" and the "dominant." Maybe you need a dominant woman.
Eh... those roles are also changeable. It's not possible for one to be always dominant or always submissive. And anyways it has nothing to do with dominance and submissiveness. maybe you're brainwashed like the rest of society to think that there need be roles such as this.
Its called Psychology. Science supports it.
It doesn't have to be wholly dominant or wholly submissive but I think you will find one partner is one thing more than the other and vice versa. In the case of social phobics I would venture to say that if the partners are BOTH social phobic, that is going to be a very hard relationship.
Oh, it's not that easy. Physical attractiveness is certainly not the decisive factor.
I suppose that this is the right direction. Although, it might not be about lowering standards, more about unconsciously choosing the doormat over the alpha-male, because of a need to dominate. A few women are sufficiently dominant to not be into being dominated. That rules the alpha-male out as the mate.
You seldom think rationally in such a situation.
Psychology of Whom?
Human beings. Biology even. Look up gender roles.
Every human is different. Every biological lifeform is different. Sure there are generalizations but they are never the absolute rule.
Look who is talking. Psychological gender roles even within the biological gender differ. No generalizations there, just categories to place behavior/inclination.