What kind of social phobia do you have?

[exquisite]

Hey guys,
I'm kinda new here..in fact, I'm completely new to this social phobia thing..since I only recently [about 2-3 days ago] figured out that I've been suffering from it for years now..it's a relief to finally know what's wrong with me, I gotta say...but I'm still curious about social phobias & what different kinds people have. How would you describe your social phobia or your social anxiety?

 

[Harleyq]

Everything scares me lol. Any kind of interaction with people at all terrifies me. My heart gets racing even from someone walking or driving behind me/my car. When anyone starts talking to me for any reason, I get at least a little nervous unless I know the person well.

It's better now. Everything still scares me, but I can deal with somethings much more easily now.

 

[lunarla]

I don't really think I have social phobia, per say. I'm usually okay with that, just that I don't really thrive off of it or desire too much social interaction to say the least. I think I may have some kind of social anxiety when I got to places where I'm supposed to interact with people who I have no clue, such as parties. Those are the worst. Probably why I don't go to parties.

Other than that, I actually found this site from looking up insecurity. I have a whole lot of that to an irrational point with my thoughts and anxiety and dysthymia, but at this point those have taken a backseat to my insecurity. (Or maybe their driving it?)

Anyway! Rambling. I'm also recently new! There's a tonne of nice people here, so welcome!

 

[exquisite]

Everything scares me lol. Any kind of interaction with people at all terrifies me. My heart gets racing even from someone walking or driving behind me/my car. When anyone starts talking to me for any reason, I get at least a little nervous unless I know the person well.

It's better now. Everything still scares me, but I can deal with somethings much more easily now.

mine is similar, but i'm not scared exactly..more like uncomfortable. i hate awkward silences, since i always feel like i need to keep the conversation going, but i have absolutely nothing to say. which, in turn, makes me feel like im a social outcast. i hate meeting people as well, unless i'm with a friend..

I don't really think I have social phobia, per say. I'm usually okay with that, just that I don't really thrive off of it or desire too much social interaction to say the least. I think I may have some kind of social anxiety when I got to places where I'm supposed to interact with people who I have no clue, such as parties. Those are the worst. Probably why I don't go to parties.

Other than that, I actually found this site from looking up insecurity. I have a whole lot of that to an irrational point with my thoughts and anxiety and dysthymia, but at this point those have taken a backseat to my insecurity. (Or maybe their driving it?)

Anyway! Rambling. I'm also recently new! There's a tonne of nice people here, so welcome!

i'm the same. i've always been kind of introverted, quiet. i've kinda started noticing my insecurities too, though, which suprises even me. how can i have a disorder & not even know about it? people tell me that i have a big ego, that i'm even a little bit arrogant, so it wouldn't make any sense for me to have insecurities, but i keep noticing that i just have irrational thoughts or fears. like, whenever i get off the bus, i always imagine that i'm going to slip or fall or that my dress will fly up..i'm always checking myself in the mirror, it's getting to be very difficult to just 'be'. i always have to worry about something.. but the people here are very nice im so incredibly glad i found this website!

 

[limetree]

Being in a situation where I have to be or potentially will be assessed scares me- interacting with new people- especially making small talk at social gatherings and keeping a conversation going, job interviews, exams etc but my SA is not as dysfunctional as some cases I've read about- being unable to go grocery shopping, ride public transport etc. The impersonal nature of these transactions distances people from finding out my weaknesses, which is where the real 'risk' seems to be at. My insecurities seem to cause selective mutism and/or physical avoidance. Perhaps I'm a bit of a defeated perfectionist in the sense that I like to spend a long time thinking about how to best communicate my intentions. I don't trust my ability to shoot from the lip- even if I could correct myself as I went along, I fear feeling overwhelmed by humiliation. I'm sensitive to criticism so I'm pretty guarded with who I open up to and let loose around, it's probably a fear of losing control. I've always been shy but sometimes my avoidance is due more to feeling different from most people and not being bothered to try to fit in. (introversion, energy costs) Prolonged isolation stagnates development of social skills thus accumulates anxiety.