Would u like to be mentally stronger??

[kammykim]

Heres how you do it....


O hai

I going to share with you how to develop mental strength.


I'm not good with writing, so I will sum up, from experience, as quick and painlessly as I can.

basically you must challenge yourself.

yes, u wanna to be stronger mentally, you gotta take on challenges and successfully overcome them. the harder the better, the more the merrier.

I'm not talking about getting over your fears. I'm talking about personal growth.

I like to take on challenges that have aesthetic bonuses to them, for example, if your a heavy person, lose weight. think about how hard that is for you to do. you don't care about actually looking good, you care about defeating this one challenge so you can become stronger mentally. think about all the times your gonna want to quit and pig out and force your self not to, so you can beat this challenge. going through this process of self denial and discipline to achieve your personal goal strengthens you mental and physically and u will feel absolutely amazing....YOU JUST ACCOMPLISHED SOMETHING!!!

me, I want to develop my stomach muscles more. thinking about all those sit ups turn me off, but I grit my teeth and i'm gonna get it done. the harder the better, it makes me feel stronger knowing it wasn't easy.



dont sit infront of the tv all day and accept the brain washing. instead learn a foreign language or instrument..run a mile/marathon and when u feel like u want to give up, remind yourself you will not grow if you do. you need to accomplish this.

 

[Jared]

Well said. It's true. The trouble is, most people here don't want to do or be anything accept what they feel they can NOT do or be.

 

[PennyLane]

Ummm...im sorry im in a bit of a grumpy serious downer mood today (so i apologise)...but this doesn't work for me!!

I constantly challenge myself with zero effect on how i actually feel about myself. Outside achievements seem to make little difference....which is why its kinda useless when people say "snap out of it", like if you just decide to get up and live it'll all be ok.

Just as an example..some of the challenges I completed in the last 5 years:

I moved from the UK to Australia for uni (purely so i could explore somewhere new) and i've travelled the whole country practically and now completing degree successfully.
I volunteered in kenya teaching english (shit scary..but i did it)
I qualified as an accounting technician (chose accounts coz rarely have to speak)
I qualified as a gym instructor
I ran a half marathon.
Went to Canada, America, Uganda and pretty much everywhere in Europe. (Pretty much not speaking to a soul though!)

This sounds like a massive gloating story but actually what im trying to say is that although I can see these achievements....they do improve the way I feel about myself or seem to allow me to speak to people. I literally hate myself

I think my problems are deep inside me and outside influences can't change them that easily. Sorry this is a big long rant...but its a bad day and i get frustrated with myself!!

 

[Lea]

This sounds like a massive gloating story but actually what im trying to say is that although I can see these achievements....they do improve the way I feel about myself or seem to allow me to speak to people. I literally hate myself

They do or do not?

 

[Jake123]

It's not that simple.

 

[PennyLane]

They do or do not?

oops sorry that was meant to be do not!!

I know its a bit of a negative self indulgent rant...but it just frustrates me that i really try and put myself out there and each time it never seems to get easier. In fact in some cases harder! Infuriating

 

[PennyLane]

Oh i just want to add that I dont want to discourage anyone..I still think it is completely worth the time and energy of doing the things you want....especially when they scare you. Its just that...it doesn't suddenly make you ok...thats all.

 

[mogs]

Ummm...im sorry im in a bit of a grumpy serious downer mood today (so i apologise)...but this doesn't work for me!!

I constantly challenge myself with zero effect on how i actually feel about myself. Outside achievements seem to make little difference....which is why its kinda useless when people say "snap out of it", like if you just decide to get up and live it'll all be ok.

Just as an example..some of the challenges I completed in the last 5 years:

I moved from the UK to Australia for uni (purely so i could explore somewhere new) and i've travelled the whole country practically and now completing degree successfully.
I volunteered in kenya teaching english (shit scary..but i did it)
I qualified as an accounting technician (chose accounts coz rarely have to speak)
I qualified as a gym instructor
I ran a half marathon.
Went to Canada, America, Uganda and pretty much everywhere in Europe. (Pretty much not speaking to a soul though!)

This sounds like a massive gloating story but actually what im trying to say is that although I can see these achievements....they do improve the way I feel about myself or seem to allow me to speak to people. I literally hate myself

I think my problems are deep inside me and outside influences can't change them that easily. Sorry this is a big long rant...but its a bad day and i get frustrated with myself!!

I think that is pretty damn amazing that you did all that!! You must have so many cool memories. That's inspiring, because in spite of your social phobia, you are still striving to live your life and do all these things! Thanks for sharing

 

[smff73]

oops sorry that was meant to be do not!!

I know its a bit of a negative self indulgent rant...but it just frustrates me that i really try and put myself out there and each time it never seems to get easier. In fact in some cases harder! Infuriating

Couldn't agree more Penny, I keep putting myself out there, travelling abroad alone, getting qualifications, learning new things, getting really fit, going out of my way to meet people.

Yet, I feel myself slowly getting worse. Maybe I should hibernate, see if I feel better afterwards!

 

[PennyLane]

I think that is pretty damn amazing that you did all that!! You must have so many cool memories. That's inspiring, because in spite of your social phobia, you are still striving to live your life and do all these things! Thanks for sharing

Thanks so much mogs, i was actually a bit embarrassed by that rant afterwards ::

Im really glad it inspired you!!

 

[PennyLane]

Couldn't agree more Penny, I keep putting myself out there, travelling abroad alone, getting qualifications, learning new things, getting really fit, going out of my way to meet people.

Yet, I feel myself slowly getting worse. Maybe I should hibernate, see if I feel better afterwards!

haha i'll join you

 

[doesit]

tried to quit smoking,doesnt work that easy

 

[mogs]

Thanks so much mogs, i was actually a bit embarrassed by that rant afterwards ::

No way, you should be proud!! ::

 

[LadyWench]

Gosh, this sounds great. I just wish it was this easy to do.