Coworkers are trying to set me up on Blind date...but....

newguy1985

newguy1985

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Age 23

never dated or done jack with women

not good in social situations in general, especially w/women.


what should I do / say?

So far i've given mixed answers with a tone that I really dont want to be bothered with this.
 
Livingwithoutlivin

Livingwithoutlivin

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Be relaxed, and make her feel comfortable, you got to be somebody who just flows with it, who makes it all turn right.


I love my ex and he was butt ugly, but his personality won me over, he made things go right, and I love him for that, I loved him for being the strong one, and for making our dates together memorable ones, were he just might the vibe a pleasant one.
 
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WelshOne

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Go for it :)

Avoiding the situation wont help anything, and will probably make you feel worse after the initial moment of relief.
 
sabbath9

sabbath9

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that's the beauty of the situation, you can't fail, all you have to do is show up and spend a little time talking to her
 
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Banvard

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I came close to this once. Not so much as a date, but somebody interested in me. I was quiet and did not talk much; they never really knew my life. Therefore, I told them I already had a girlfriend. I am not sure if they believed me but I did not hear anything more after that. The reason I did this was my anxiety and shyness. The woman who was interested in me worked close by. It made me feel very uncomfortable. I could not look at her properly again. Worse still, I had created a fake girl friend, because they would ask about her. It wasn't a good idea. lol

Looking back now, I would really like to knock myself to the ground. Go for it, what you got to lose?
 
BlackKids

BlackKids

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Go for it. If it doesn't work out just say you didn't really click. It could end up been the best decision of your life ;)
 
market.garden

market.garden

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newguy1985 said:
but if i fail...i have to work with these people !
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They wont be expecting you to go on this date, fall madly in love, get married and have kids with this woman, like Blackkids said, you could just say you didn't click. On the other hand, you may strike lucky with this blind date and get on really well.

I'm 23 too and don't feel like I can interact with women at all, but occassionally you meet someone who you feel a little more comfortable with and that's never a bad thing. Also remember that she will be pretty damn nervous too.
 
newguy1985

newguy1985

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BlackKids said:
Go for it. If it doesn't work out just say you didn't really click. It could end up been the best decision of your life ;)
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market.garden said:
They wont be expecting you to go on this date, fall madly in love, get married and have kids with this woman, like Blackkids said, you could just say you didn't click. On the other hand, you may strike lucky with this blind date and get on really well.

I'm 23 too and don't feel like I can interact with women at all, but occassionally you meet someone who you feel a little more comfortable with and that's never a bad thing. Also remember that she will be pretty damn nervous too.
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Thanks guys. I'm just a little imtimidated because she is 4 years older and makes 10k - 20k more than me !!!

And I just dont want my apperance (boyish...i can appear 16) to turn her off like it has in the past (women who lol when they see me)
 
market.garden

market.garden

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newguy1985 said:
Thanks guys. I'm just a little imtimidated because she is 4 years older and makes 10k - 20k more than me !!!

And I just dont want my apperance (boyish...i can appear 16) to turn her off like it has in the past (women who lol when they see me)
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Ah, money means nothing! Any date, blind or not is gonna be intimidating either way, for both parties involved, it's just something you gotta accept.
 
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thor01

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Do what feels right deep down to you. It sounds like a good opportunity, the kind of opportunity I could do with having.
 
newguy1985

newguy1985

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thor01 said:
Do what feels right deep down to you. It sounds like a good opportunity, the kind of opportunity I could do with having.
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being the "First date ever" i just dont wanna fail it.

nervous
stuttering
dont knwo what to say / do
awkward moments
dont know about physical contact
etc

I just dont want it past around that this dude prob never been on a date before lol
 
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thor01

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newguy1985 said:
being the "First date ever" i just dont wanna fail it.

nervous
stuttering
dont knwo what to say / do
awkward moments
dont know about physical contact
etc

I just dont want it past around that this dude prob never been on a date before lol
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Well I understand you're hesitation, I would be the same, but I wouldn't really be bothered about people knowing I had never been on a date, and if awkward moments did happen, it would be over eventually and you could move on afterwards, you could think of it as an experiment, or a virtual reality test date, in which whatever happens won't matter afterwards.
 
newguy1985

newguy1985

Member
thor01 said:
Well I understand you're hesitation, I would be the same, but I wouldn't really be bothered about people knowing I had never been on a date, and if awkward moments did happen, it would be over eventually and you could move on afterwards, you could think of it as an experiment, or a virtual reality test date, in which whatever happens won't matter afterwards.
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i see your point but in this case it does matter becuase i work with these people. well...its prob more so in my head than anything else. at worst she'll think im bad at dating, not first date ever
 
Tiercel

Tiercel

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Can you do any impersonations of other coworkers? Or have you been there long enough to have picked up on some of their mannerisms? If you two know some of the same people it might be kind of fun to laugh about them. But you'd have to keep it honest and inoffensive.

Just try to have fun, and don't worry about doing something wrong. And if she's really cute, just remember that she sits down to crap too. And if it doesn't work out, you could start joking with your coworkers to find you another woman. But know that that might lead to blind date number 2.

And if you two don't hit it off spectacularly, give me her number. ;)
 
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