Phobia

[kingdazza]

Hey there. i am really worried and parranoid about looking hot and very red. My whole face is red, and it stops on my neck, so my neck is normal colour

i constantly everytime i walk past a miror look in it. I wont go anywhere because i think im red, and i know i will go more red in social situations so i avoid it. And people saying i am not red really annoys me because i can see it in the mirror badly myself!

I think if my face went back to normal colour, i could get my confidence back ect , and alof of the anxiety would be gone. Its hard to deal with SA and this redness

 

[SickJoke]

Hey there. i am really worried and parranoid about looking hot and very red. My whole face is red, and it stops on my neck, so my neck is normal colour

i constantly everytime i walk past a miror look in it. I wont go anywhere because i think im red, and i know i will go more red in social situations so i avoid it. And people saying i am not red really annoys me because i can see it in the mirror badly myself!

I think if my face went back to normal colour, i could get my confidence back ect , and alof of the anxiety would be gone. Its hard to deal with SA and this redness

Yeah, fear of blushing is common, which I never really understood. So what if you blush? It's a sign of energy and compassion. Much better to blush, than to lose all color in your face due to fear, in my opinion.

 

[worrywort]

gosh, I don't have the blushing problem but I can imagine it must be bloody hard having to wear such a visible sign of your inner feelings. But if you'd like an objective point of view, I reckon blushing could potentially be turned into a very powerful tool. Because when you're in a room full of people, most people are trying to pump themselves up and make themselves look stronger and tougher and more confident and more attractive etc...all that survival of the fittest stuff. But I've always found in life that this mentality usually only produces competition between people, which inevitably leads to conflict and war. But often I think a good way to resolve conflict is when everybody in the room realises that deep down inside they all share similar weaknesses and insecurities....everybody's scared of rejection to some degree......and it can relax people and allow them to drop their facade......and well, maybe you're just the man for the job. In situations like that, when everybody's being macho, it often takes just one brave soul to stand up and admit their weaknesses and the others follow suit.....but I'm not sure how that might practically look in your life.......but if you could somehow learn to laugh about it and be ok with.......cause in the end there's absolutely nothing wrong with it.....it's not your fault....it's just a chemical reaction in your body.......so if you could make jokes about it and show others that you're fine with it, it may actually relax other people when they see that you have weaknesses but you're ok with them, they may feel more comfortable with their own weaknesses.....

......plus, who knows, but I reckon some of the ladies may really dig the guy who doesn't need to be macho.....the guy who can resolve the conflicts.....and also, in many ways, I think it takes way more bravery to be honest about your inner feelings, than it does to act tough.