emotions are powerful... I think we can all agree on power means being in control of your own emotions, emotions make you see the world the way you see it, emotions can change the brain chemistry balance
it's all about the emotions, fix your emotions and your free... why people go the hard way and try to do it the painful way with trying to change beliefs is beyond me,
energy (emotinal) healing is the way to go, Iam clearing memories with it, and my whole believe system about socializing changed as a by product
Every memory I clear of anxiety, I clear it that I focus on how lonely I felt. Not on how anxious I was, but on how lonely I felt and the anxiety goes
Mr sickening joke - evolutionary psychologist, what you think about the idea that social beings fear being alone? To social beings being alone means death? Umm no to word it correctly, a social being has no problem being alone, when he knows there are other social beings around he can befriend be accepted anytime he wants, but what happens when he experiences or feels like he is not being accepted, by no one over a long time, he starts to panick I would say that he will end up alone and die
That's exactly how I feel, I can be on the busiest street with a 1000 people around, I still feel so closed down, alone, I can't connect with any human being.Iam at home with my parents, I feel alone, they don't know my issues, they don't understand me, we don't connect... if I just had 1 person I could open up to and feel like we connected my anxiety would be a lot lighter
In the early stages of humankind it was vital for survival to be in groups, humans couldn't survive on their own, they had to be in groups, with evolution it became less important, but this part can still be triggered
There are 3 major things people can be anxious about, fear of death, fear of pain and fear of shame, fear of death can be a fear of heights, a fear of small places, fear of being alone and so on
Just think of if you were stranded on an island alone or as a child how scary it was when your parents left you alone... What were you afraid of? If they left you with a group of unknown people? I think you would feel lonely there coz you don't know them, now if that was a memory and I would do EFT on it, I wouldn't try to eliminate the fear or how I was afraid of those people, or how I feared they gona hurt me,but the underlying emotion that caused it.. feeling alone, I would tap on how lonely I felt and the memory wouldn't be traumatic anymore. That's what I do with EFT on every negative memory I got.
Iam like a child really despite being 21, I will go nowhere without my parents, Iam to scared lol and I know why
Now I don't believe you can develop an anxiety disorder on a fear of pain or shame, you just feel the anxiety at the time you feel the pain or shame
An anxiety disorder you develop when your brain thinks your in danger all the time, that's fear of death, Iam as alone as it gets and Iam in constant anxiety, I feel like the anxiety is eating up my muscles while I sleep while Iam awake
It's not like Iam being in pain coz people are causing me pain all the time and feel anxiety coz of it!no, Iam being alone in my room- not being hurt for months, but my anxiety is as strong as it is always
To me it seems like Iam in constant anxiety coz Iam so alone and I FEEL like I will forever be alone, I can't be accepted, so Iam like Iam dieing so Iam in constant anxiety even when Iam all alone
Iam sure I would have no anxiety if I knew I can be accepted around people and socialize, the thing is to us social phobics being laughed at, rejected, devalued... It's all the same thing, it all means the same, it means your not accepted and gona be alone or have to find someone else to socialize, with time you see though that no one wants you so you start panicking around people coz you want to survive and be accepted, the more you fail at being accepted the more you fear you will stay alone and die, so the anxiety greater
The way I see it is Iam like I have been put on an island all alone, I been there for 7 years now and it's killing me... that's how I feel here, no matter if Iam alone in my room
or on a busy street with a 100 people around... I can't connect with human beings, Iam all alone, there are times when I have to go to a doctor and I for some reason have a nice Convo with him which makes me not feel so alone anymore, than for that whole day I feel great, straight from the doctor I can walk into a shopping mall without much fear (which is a big NO usually), I feel like I belong again... but just for the day, next day Iam back to my old anxious me.... No one had an experience like that before?
No one really agree with that??