Do you like what you see in the mirror?

LilMissTragic · Mar 9, 2005

I have often wondered if this is connected to my Sp or something totally different. I have always known i'm not a pretty girl and I suppose through all the bullying and name calling other people confirmed it for me...I hate what I see in the mirror but i'm not sure wether thats because I was told day in day out that I'm ugly or wether its actually true. I know everyone has different opinions of beauty but do you think its connected with the SP or what?

lawyerguy · Mar 9, 2005

I agree ..and just to write down a male perspective on things...I've never been told that I was handsome or had any attention from girls..that totally affected how I view myself and made me a lot more shyer than i would've been. I think if people kept telling me I was handsome and/or if I got attention from girls I think I would've been a lot more confident..but I don't know...judging from some of the pics on here...there are a lot of attractive people on this website..so I guess if they still have social phobia..then maybe there isn't a link between social phobia and being attractive or unattractive...but certainly being perceived as unnattractive doesn't help social phobia..

raoul · Mar 9, 2005

JWH · Mar 9, 2005

No, I don't like what I see in the mirror. I haven't been told I'm ugly or been bullied about it, but it's caused me to isolate myself from others anyway. It's all low self esteem which goes hand in hand with SP.

FroggyHope · Mar 9, 2005

Some may be, but not all.

dazz · Mar 9, 2005

Your not ugly LilMissTragic, i seen your picture in the gallery a while back, or at least i think it was you :wink:

I like what i see in the mirror..well not really, i wish it was somebody else looking back at me

Chilling__Echo · Mar 9, 2005

no, i don't feel like it's connected. but i feel like if i were pretty it'd be easier. i know it's obsessive when i start to think that way... oh well, i know everyone thinks that though :?

GettingThere · Mar 9, 2005

To be too attractive would carry its own burden in that you would have to deal with a hell of a lot more shallowness. Its not a problem that I have however.

And just think of all of the heartbreak which you would have to deal out in saying no to so many people. :lol:

FruitLooPs · Mar 9, 2005

No I dont really like what I see. I see a sad person, unlike you guys I haven't really been put down or called ugly or anything. In fact i've been told im attractive by several girls who were rather attractive themselves. I don't know if I believe them though..

If anything it makes me feel worse, I feel like I am not worthy of this praise. I certainly dont feel 'attractive' mentally :? I feel intimidated by them if anything, or that they are just saying it to try cheer me up or something.

Regardless of looks I feel like crap is what im trying to say. So even without bulliying and lowering of my self esteem it seems to have lowered itself over the years.

Oh what a skill to have .. :x

Nightshade · Mar 10, 2005

Sometimes I like watching myself in the mirror and sometimes I see myself and am horrified. But I know that when I am with other people, after a while I really don't notice how attractive they are most of the time and think about their personality, so I kind of hope that other people do the same thing.

I think I have trouble judging accurately what I see in the mirror. Certainly it is hard for me to tell if I have gained or lost weight, even though other people might comment on it.

I've had people tell me I am beautiful and people tell me I am ugly. The sorts of things that they said to me said more about them than they did about me.

Mici · Mar 10, 2005

I'm much easier now with looking in the mirror than I used to be. SA/SP tends to make you think you are less attractive than you are, or makes you think some parts of your appearance look odd. Is the term for this "body dysmorphia" or something?

It can help to go to meetings with other SA/SP people. When you see a roomful of totally normal-looking people, some of them incredibly good-looking, and then find each one thinks he/she is unattractive, then you start to realise the problem might be all in your mind.

Hamble · Mar 10, 2005

I'm pale with sad eyes. I had a nose job when I was 17 as I felt I looked like a female version of chris eubank. My dad always apologised for my nose and offered to pay for it to be done. So I had it done. I deeply regret it now. I've learned to like my face now that i'm 24, (not my body), as it's me. What I dont like is my facial expressions. I've been told I either look like im going to a funeral, or like I have a smug smirk going on :roll:

I think I traumtised the webmaster too, as I submitted my passport mugshot 3 weeks ago and it wasn't put up. The shame

Dedication · Mar 10, 2005

I think I'm ugly inside and out. I hate how I sound, too. And now the Webmaster won't take my picture off this site and I feel sick I can't sleep because of it.

bluehands · Mar 10, 2005

How I feel I look generally depends on how I feel inside.

LilMissTragic · Mar 10, 2005

Thanks for the replies, Its sad that I'm not alone in this but in a way its good knowing I'm not alone in my thinking. Its weird, even though I think I'm not attractive I can't understand how anyone can see themselves as ugly...sounds like a mad contradiction but its how my mind works. lol. I'm going mad I think...I'm sure...

Fredscars · Mar 10, 2005

i hate what i see in the mirror. i just see this girl with huge bags under her eyes, a huge nose ,spotty, freckly etc..i just hate it. Loadsa people say im pretty or gorgeous but i really cant see. When people ask me and i say i hate how i look people just think im looking for compliments but i really wished i looked so much different. I used to be happy with my figure at least but now i just see my supposedly 'flat' stomach bluging, my chests too small..etc..petty stupid things that mean i really dont like mirrors.
most annoying thing is, is that i am constantly checking in mirrors to make sure i dont look rediculous, or my hairs straight etc for when people see me..people mistake it for vanity, its just complete lack of self esteem about the way i look.

Chilling__Echo · Mar 10, 2005

I think I'm ugly inside and out.

Dedication, i feel that way alot alot alot. i've never considered myself a "good" person (whatever that means). i know it's just from low self-esteem. i know i'm no different than anyone else. lately i've been trying to keep myself surrounded by people that i would want to be like. it helps

LilMissTragic · Mar 11, 2005

Yet I haven't seen one ugly person in the gallery....your all fakers aren't ya?....lol.

Chilling__Echo · Mar 11, 2005

aww! lol i dont' know how you guys post pics. i'm so sure that someone i know would recognize me

Tim001 · Mar 12, 2005

Define ugly.
I believe that every one of us is attractive in someone's eyes. There are no set standards (although the advertisers will tell you differently). There is a lot more to what makes someone great than looks alone. I find many attractive qualities in women that would never be considered cute by hollywood standards (and this includes physical features).
As we are all individuals with different tastes, it is hard to define "ugly".

Do you like what you see in the mirror?

Well-known member

Well-known member

Active member

Well-known member

Member

Active member

Well-known member

Well-known member

Well-known member

Well-known member

Member

Well-known member

Well-known member

Member

Well-known member

Well-known member

Well-known member

Well-known member

Well-known member

Well-known member