Do you have extroverted friends?

TwoYellowSocks

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My roomate is a social butterfly. She's out with a different group of friends practically every night, and has several boyfriends in different cities! (all "monogomous" boyfriends who don't know about each other.)

Anyhoo, this got me thinking: at any given point in my life, I had only one or two really close friends...and each one of them has been very extroverted and gregarious -- the kind of people who love parties and performing and huge social gatherings and taking center stage (everything that makes me cringe)... I wonder if there is a reason behind this -- am I attracted to social people because they balance out my personality? Are super-social people attracted to me because I don't compete for attention? Or is it that BECAUSE they were social, they were just better able to draw me out of my shell?

Have you had similar experiences? What types of people have you found it easier to befriend and become emotionally intimate with?

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FaymeLevy

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I do tend to get friends who are very social and outgoing, rather than quiet like myself. It's probably because they are able to start the conversation and come up with things to do. Face it, two quiet people arent going to be able to amuse each other much. :)
 
Skyla

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my best friend is like me. she's in therapy herself, lol. although she doesnt have SA, just other problems and ones which are similar to mine. da other "friends" i have i dont really know about. we're not friends on personal levels. i do know that because they had strict parents they werent really allowed a social life, they're 18 now and have a tiny bit more freedom, however because i dont see or speak to them much, i dont know if dats made any difference.
Ive never purposely made friends who dont have much of a socail life etc. its just ended up dat way. they do say you attract people who are most like you....
 
Remus

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thoughtless said:
Remus said:
thoughtless said:
I wouldn't envy a friend who was a whore, but that's just me :)
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huh?
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"She's out with a different group of friends practically every night, and has several boyfriends in different cities! (all "monogomous" boyfriends who don't know about each other.) "

Friend, roommate, whatever.
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ahh gotcha :wink:
 
TwoYellowSocks

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I wouldn't exactly call her a whore, but I certainly don't envy her. I was just commenting on how effortlessly she makes and keeps social relationships...THAT's the part I envy!
 
loopy

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A lot of the friends that I have had have been extroverted. I think its cos they do most of the talking and don't mind calling me all the time. I find this fine until we are with other people. Then I just feel inadequate cos they're havin fun and i'm just left on my own with nothin to say. But I do think that just because they're extroverted doesn't necessarily mean they're happy. I know someone who is the most extroverted person ever but she has big problems and thats her way of covering it up.
 
loopy

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A lot of the friends that I have had have been extroverted. I think its cos they do most of the talking and don't mind calling me all the time. I find this fine until we are with other people. Then I just feel inadequate cos they're havin fun and i'm just left on my own with nothin to say. But I do think that just because they're extroverted doesn't necessarily mean they're happy. I know someone who is the most extroverted person ever but she has big problems and thats her way of covering it up.
 
Toad

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The only people who can get to know me are very social extroverted...this is expecially true with girls. So yeah, most all of my friends are very extroverted...if they weren't I wouldn't know them.
 
Toad

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The only people who can get to know me are very socially extroverted...this is expecially true with girls. So yeah, most all of my friends are very extroverted...if they weren't I wouldn't know them

- damn...hit the wrong button
 
Waybuloo

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There seems to be a trend here of you guys attracting and befriending extroverts and you being introverts. I'm just wondering how can that happen cause if you're quiet and introverted don't they find that non responsive since they crave excitement and lots of conversations (not being one sided from their part). I seem to see extroverts as bubbly positive people who talk a lot (and maybe prone to shorter attention span lol). And they scare the hell out of me. I'm just wondering how you befriend them and keep them interested?
 
genre_andrea

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being that i am extroverted, i have many extroverted friends.
however, i do have some that are more conservative and quiet - i don't treat them any differently. i love when they are able to open up around me and i like making them feel comfortable.
 
Y

Y

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Chihiro said:
There seems to be a trend here of you guys attracting and befriending extroverts and you being introverts. I'm just wondering how can that happen cause if you're quiet and introverted don't they find that non responsive since they crave excitement and lots of conversations (not being one sided from their part). I seem to see extroverts as bubbly positive people who talk a lot (and maybe prone to shorter attention span lol). And they scare the hell out of me. I'm just wondering how you befriend them and keep them interested?
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You brought a dead topic back to life, you are a life saver, miracle bringer... Aaahhhh....
 
pinkputter

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Most all of my friends have been pretty extroverted. And my BEST best friend in HS was class favorite, and homecoming queen type...she also had a really charismatic personality and different from pretty much everyone else...I liked being around her cause I felt like maybe her personality would rub off on me. now that im in college we hardly see each other. Looking back on it, it was probably unhealthy how I was dependent on her, cause now im having to learn to share my own personality, and its forcing me not to turn to other people to help me be my own person
 
missquiet

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i've only really made friends with outgoing people. i guess cause extroverted people are the ones who come up and try to talk to me. i would rather have quiet friends but if a quiet person doesn't say much and neither do i.. it doesn't really work. so i end up with outgoing friends who go out all the time doing extroverted things and of course i don't go so it's still kind of like i have no friends.

Chihiro said:
There seems to be a trend here of you guys attracting and befriending extroverts and you being introverts. I'm just wondering how can that happen cause if you're quiet and introverted don't they find that non responsive since they crave excitement and lots of conversations (not being one sided from their part). I seem to see extroverts as bubbly positive people who talk a lot (and maybe prone to shorter attention span lol). And they scare the hell out of me. I'm just wondering how you befriend them and keep them interested?
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hmm i have a very extroverted friend and sometimes when it's just me and her she just babbles on and on while i don't say a word. it's like she's talking to a wall but she doesn't seem bothered by it so i have no idea. :?
 
DYiNG-iNSiDE

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idk because i can be both,, around my family im outgoing and aroung by friends but in school and w/ ppl idk 2 good im rlly quiet my friends r just normal i guess lol they talk a normal amount all the time haha
 
Waybuloo

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Y said:
Chihiro said:
There seems to be a trend here of you guys attracting and befriending extroverts and you being introverts. I'm just wondering how can that happen cause if you're quiet and introverted don't they find that non responsive since they crave excitement and lots of conversations (not being one sided from their part). I seem to see extroverts as bubbly positive people who talk a lot (and maybe prone to shorter attention span lol). And they scare the hell out of me. I'm just wondering how you befriend them and keep them interested?
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You brought a dead topic back to life, you are a life saver, miracle bringer... Aaahhhh....
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Lol thanks and thanks for makin me feel special if jsut for a moment, that's the strongest response i've gotten yet from SPW ! (give that ur not makin fun of me :))
 
Waybuloo

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pinkputter said:
Most all of my friends have been pretty extroverted. And my BEST best friend in HS was class favorite, and homecoming queen type...she also had a really charismatic personality and different from pretty much everyone else...I liked being around her cause I felt like maybe her personality would rub off on me. now that im in college we hardly see each other. Looking back on it, it was probably unhealthy how I was dependent on her, cause now im having to learn to share my own personality, and its forcing me not to turn to other people to help me be my own person
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I kind of know how u feel, i had a 'best friend' type friend in HS that i stuck to alot, she's not the extroverted type but had a magnetic aura or something and always drew people to her. I was attracted to her, i realse now it's like a female infatuation in a non-lesbian way hehe. when she 'broke up' with me i was devastated and cried over her 'break up letter'. Because of that i became more withdrawn and changed my personality to be more self reliant.
 
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