Social_Monstrosity
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Because I know I have no chance with her.
Does anybody else get these thoughts?
Does anybody else get these thoughts?
What is this statement based on? While reasonable to assume that there are plenty of people - not just women in this romantic context - who prefer a good challenge for a change, it appears to be very different in my reality. Of all the women I met in real-life, not a single one felt in any way attracted to me. I am not particularly upset because of it, as I could not be a good partner to the overwhelming majority of women, anyway.Quite a lot of girls enjoy the challenge of cracking a tough shell and really getting to know a guy.
Does anybody else get these thoughts?
How is she supposed to get to that stage? Our innate differences become apparent the moment the conversation arrives at sharing the interests. Of course, mine will fundamentally differ from hers in an entirely incompatible way. I am not saying that there is no woman who might share some of my interests, but it is rather unlikely we will ever meet and find each other attractive.Has any female taken the time to really learn your intricacies? Maybe not. But the point is, if she got to that stage, she'd likely find a lot to like.
Perhaps I wasn't clear about this. Of course, I do have a lot to offer - but only to a very special kind of woman who might not even exist, or be for other reasons not interested in me.They would never get beyond the 'audition' stage because I thought (like you) that I had nothing to offer them.
none of the women I was meeting were perfect. It's not like they're put-together and we're not. We're all screwed up in different ways
Klytus, these women you met - they were brief, superficial meetings, right? Well, no woman is going to base her attraction off of that (unless she's shallow and you happen to look like a supermodel). Has any female taken the time to really learn your intricacies? Maybe not. But the point is, if she got to that stage, she'd likely find a lot to like.
This has been my experience, that's what I'm basing my statements on. I used to cut off a lot of women in my younger years because I felt too inept. They would never get beyond the 'audition' stage because I thought (like you) that I had nothing to offer them. But once I became a little more aggressive, things got much better. I realized that I was the only one screwing myself over by being too shy, and that none of the women I was meeting were perfect. It's not like they're put-together and we're not. We're all screwed up in different ways. You just have to have the guts to take it all a bit further and hope that you can coexist and complement each other well enough for something good to happen - and for it to last.
I find this unacceptable behaviour. Why are they being physically close when someone else is around?I get this strange lonely feeling whenever all three of us are hanging out because they hold hands and hug and stuff, while I am standing there awkward and alone.
I find couples doing that offensive. Heh.
I don't really like nor buy into the whole 'being more aggressive' with women outlook. that stuff could make you come out to be a creep.
sure just say "don't give up" but to be aggressive... is well.. excessive.
especially since I too tried being more aggressive and it hasn't gotten me anywhere.
maybe because I needed to be more of an ass, but that's something I won't do.
On the other hand, there's a smaller percentage of girls who dont care about a guys feelings. You know, cutting the relationship on and off, hot and cold. They want to eat your soul. You should run. Who wants that kind?
My best friend is dating what would probably have to be my "dream girl", or close to it. So its a constant reminder of what I can't have but he somehow can. I get this strange lonely feeling whenever all three of us are hanging out because they hold hands and hug and stuff, while I am standing there awkward and alone ::.