Crush..

1st..don't reply if you don't like me or are gona say somthin nasty.
I am trying to be decent about this all..

This is gonna sound paranoid in probably all parts..but here goes nothin..
Okay i have a crush on a guy i don't even know..and ..
well..tbh nothing can happen. and i'm sure he talks to me as an online friend, infact prolly doesn't even think of me as a friend. i do worry that i'm nothing at all to him (even though we do talk a fair bit)

It's just, he's honestly the only guy that's ever bothered with me before..even compared to real life. He must kinda maybe like me a bit to bother..just..he's in northern ireland, he's older (i'm not even saying) and he's probably gt a girlfriend or somthing lol!..
but i really do like him.

This has been a few months now i've felt like this but i have known the guy over a yr. Ive only just started to get a crush on him though ;s

It's probably no wonder i fancy him becuase i don't get any other attention (i really don't no lie) ..also a few years ago i had a crush on the counsellor i had through school ;/ he was always so nice to me, yet he didn't want to know/like/ love me ..know what i mean? he just wanted to help/talk to me. but i wanted more. This is how i feel about online guy.
That counsellor was the only thing i looked forward to in the week..it's like that with net guy. :: I'd sit up waiting for him to come online..i'd stop what i was doing to speak to him..i'd even cancel doing something if he was on even if he didn't speak to me anyways. One time he was on (well most times lol) i just sit and look at my screen and wait for him to talk and if he doesn't i get so sad D=.. this guy is nothing special i do know. he's just a normal guy, but the fact i am so lonely has made me get attatched. I've even dreamed about him and dreamed of kissing him..::

I really want to tell him..but if i do it could a] ruin our online friendship ..if we even have one or 2] he will just brush it off as a crush.. maybe it is just a crush but i honestly have never met anyone like him before..(is this how it's meant to feel with this crush )
Just how am i supposed to do this..

I've enjoyed knowing this guy so much it would make me stop coming online forever if he left me..;/
but if i don't say i'll never know what he really thinks of me..
argh what shouldd i do?
alternatively i could just slash my wrists and cry..or take that a step further.
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xox

First off, dont slash your wrists over anyone, its just not worth it. Second, find out if hes got a gf, cause if he does hes most likely gonna reject you, if he doesnt, I personally wouldnt want him anyways cause hes just gonna cheat on you too. If he dont got a gf then go ahead and tell him how you feel. Also its normal for girls to like older guys, as long as the guy isnt old enough to be your father.

Noca said:

First off, dont slash your wrists over anyone, its just not worth it. Second, find out if hes got a gf, cause if he does hes most likely gonna reject you, if he doesnt, I personally wouldnt want him anyways cause hes just gonna cheat on you too. If he dont got a gf then go ahead and tell him how you feel. Also its normal for girls to like older guys, as long as the guy isnt old enough to be your father.

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Ditto. As a former cutter, I can honestly tell you DO NOT DO IT! It doesn't fix anything, and in the end your scars will make you even more embarrassed to be in public for fear others might see them and ask you about them, and then you'll be between a rock and a hard spot - lie or spill your dark secrets. In my experience, I'd cut and sometimes I'd want someone to notice and kind of take care of me to show that I wasn't worthless but after I cut and was left with the scars, I didn't want them to be seen anymore, it just left me ashamed and more nervous. And especially don't do it over some guy online.

Honestly, it sounds more like infatuation than love, so if I were you, I'd try to keep that in mind and don't convince yourself that he's the one.

There's no harm in admitting you like him if he's single. Most guys would probably be really flattered to know someone fancies them. I think just a simple "I've enjoyed getting to know you, and I think I might actually have a crush on you" would work without making you look awkward or creepy.

very well said harleyq

LycraPantiies92 said:

It's just, he's honestly the only guy that's ever bothered with me before..even compared to real life.

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Yes, nobody is worth cutting your wrists over. If you have found one person who is this wonderful, there is another person out there like him if he is not available. There is this talk in pop culture such as movies and music that once you find the right person everything is suddenly wonderful, and if you miss out, you have missed out on the opportunity of a lifetime and should sit in remorse for it. But, in reality, there's plenty of fish, and even though this gentleman is one of few people that have been decent to you in your life, keep in mind that while people like him are rare, more do exist.

Right now, work on meeting more people and learning how you might do that. You are obviously in a tough place in life and I have compassion for you because I found myself there once too and put all my eggs in one basket and got burned. But, now I have a wife and am happily married. Life goes on and you can too. The key to this whole thing is working on your anxiety, and as you work on that, you will meet more people and make more friends, and you'll meet a wonderful partner somewhere along the way...probably sooner than you believe!

I agree with everything Harleyq said! Don't slash your wrists, and if you feel up to it, there's probably no harm in telling him.

LycraPantiies92 said:

he's just a normal guy, but the fact i am so lonely has made me get attatched.

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I really relate to that. I've always thought my obsessions (usually with a particular band, TV show, book, movie...once with a real-life person) are due to my loneliness. It's unbearable to just live in this empty world in your mind and so you have to fill it with something! :: I know exactly how you feel. *hug*