why are single people "lucky"?

sicklystudent

sicklystudent

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Isn't it inappropriate for an invovled person to tell a single person that they are lucky they are single?
I'm single and, I'll admit, miserably lonely, so I just hate it when my friends get off the phone after a 4 hour conversation with their boyfriend and act like their that relationships are a hassle and complain that I'm lucky that I'm single. I notice that it's never "i wish i were single." I'm a pretty easygoing person, but this is my biggest peeve....i'm single, the last thing I want is for someone to remind me of it and say I should be happy! what are your thoughts?
 
dottie

dottie

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pfft they are full of shit. if they really wanted to be single they would be.

did they say that out of the blue? it sounds like a very juvenile, bullshit passing comment. why you would take it personally i do not know. i think it reflects on the person who said it, not on you.

also, i don't think you should be unhappy that you aren't in a relationship. depending on being in a relationship for happiness is not healthy. happiness should be derived from things you do.

f em.
 
Thelema

Thelema

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Its just one of those things where you start thinking its no big deal. There was a time when your first kiss was a big deal to you and now you look back and say it was no big deal. It was a huge thing back then.

When you're in a relationship it doesn't seem like anything, until you're out of it and you're longing for one.

A relationship is the best pain and best problem you can have.
 
Primrose

Primrose

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sicklystudent said:
Isn't it inappropriate for an invovled person to tell a single person that they are lucky they are single?
I'm single and, I'll admit, miserably lonely, so I just hate it when my friends get off the phone after a 4 hour conversation with their boyfriend and act like their that relationships are a hassle and complain that I'm lucky that I'm single. I notice that it's never "i wish i were single." I'm a pretty easygoing person, but this is my biggest peeve....i'm single, the last thing I want is for someone to remind me of it and say I should be happy! what are your thoughts?
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I find it pretty patronising to be honest. I know at least two of my friends who do it regularly - one of them is in the process of getting married :roll:
 
recluse

recluse

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It's reminds me of that saying ''It's better to have been loved and lost than never been loved at all''

A lot of people are so unappreciative of their partners. For example I see a lot of guys at work who are in relationships but they lust after some of the girls at work. If I was lucky enough to be in a relationship I would not feel the need to betray by lusting after other girls.
 
Primrose

Primrose

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Exactly. I've never understood that either. The good people always get overlooked for some munch whose going to stray (and that goes for women as well as men).

When I was younger I used to tell myself that maybe the reason relationships hadn't come along was because in some strange way life was waiting for me to meet the right person who'd appreciate the fact that I wouldn't be tempted to stray or cheat.

It's all about just knowing that you're normal, that's all.
 
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