have had this problem all my life and I am losing hope at ever having a normal relationship. I am 30 now, and I have made improvements + I am on paxil which helps to an extent, but still don't have the courage to approach a woman, and let's face it females are conditioned by society and maybe partially biologically predispositioned to want to be approached first. All my ex's have met me through other friends or aquaintances. At this point in my life I have attempted to make friends with females in hopes of having good friends and maybe developing romanitic relationships. If romance doesn't develope then that's fine, because at least I would have a good friend, but, it's like a broken record, most girls that I approach think I am a complete wierdo (shy men are creepy- as labeled by movies like one hour photo, and shy girls are demur, cute, and can be brought out of it) because of the blushing and difficulty speaking, especially in public. It's a broken record, women want an assertive and confident man. I think the thing that keeps me from completely giving up on life is the hope of accomplished in the acedemic field and later in my career (which has been hard enough as it is).