What do you do at parties?

gsmax5

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What do you do at parties? Any ideas for success at parties would be greatly appreciated.
 

gsmax5

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Me

I usually end up sitting by myself, deciding whether or not to go talk to someone.

When, and if, someone approaches me (out of pity, lol), the person asks me a few questions. I just say yes or no to most of them, and the conversation is over after we just stare at eachother for a few minutes.

The only social environment I am comfortable in is my home.
 

gsmax5

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ive never been to a real party... so im not sure what i would do, lol.

Well, I haven't either!, but I have been to forced "parties" that are organized through programs such as schools or churches. I'm sure you have too, am I wrong?
 

j_brown2

Banned
Talkin and drinking. I been to some parties and it's weird I can't remember what I did there ahahaha. Well it was all easy and natural, being around people I knew, drinkin, jokin having fun, I had SA at the time but on parties I was free of SA coz there were things going on all the time, people were crazy, everyone was crazy so nothing but havin fun mattered. You could not possibly embarass yourself with everyone acting weird around. Going on parties was cool even though I had a severe SA, much easier than going with a friend to his place after school
 
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RND_CHR

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I've been to a lot of parties. It's still akward a lot for me because i still havent developed a lot of confidence. I try to talk too the people I know and introduce myself to people I don't know. Playing drinking games is pretty fun and it's easy because the focus isn't on you. Like, asking someone to play beer pong can be a good way to gret to know someone too. Honeslty, you can really do whatever you want at a party. But yeah, here are some things I keep in mind. If you talk to someone, don't answer any questions with yes or no answers. Try to make your responses more detailed and interesting. Look at them when you talk to them. Talk in a confident voice. Don't be too serious about what you're doing. And if the conversation goes bad, know that not every conversation for the rest of the night will be bad and almost everyone has bad conversations sometimes. For different reasons, a lot of people are socially receptive, not proactive. They won't talk to you unelss you talk to them first. It'll get easier the more you go to, unless you're just naturally good at socializing. Also, always have a comfort zone that you can go to if you start to feel bad while you're there. I wish I wasn't so depressed, I think I could do better talking if I wasn't. Sorry for the rambling.
 
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gsmax5

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I've been to a lot of parties. It's still akward a lot for me because i still havent developed a lot of confidence. I try to talk too the people I know and introduce myself to people I don't know. Playing drinking games is pretty fun and it's easy because the focus isn't on you. Like, asking someone to play beer pong can be a good way to gret to know someone too. Honeslty, you can really do whatever you want at a party. But yeah, here are some things I keep in mind. If you talk to someone, don't answer any questions with yes or no answers. Try to make your responses more detailed and interesting. Look at them when you talk to them. Talk in a confident voice. Don't be too serious about what you're doing. And if the conversation goes bad, know that not every conversation for the rest of the night will be bad and almost everyone has bad conversations sometimes. For different reasons, a lot of people are socially receptive, not proactive. They won't talk to you unelss you talk to them first. It'll get easier the more you go to, unless you're just naturally good at socializing. Also, always have a comfort zone that you can go to if you start to feel bad while you're there. I wish I wasn't so depressed, I think I could do better talking if I wasn't. Sorry for the rambling.

Great advice! Thanks.
 

Errordotocx

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I drink until I pass out :D

Woot! High five!


No, but really I always just down a few drinks and just try to let lose. RND_CHR has got a pretty good example of how it is. Drinking games are a whole lot of fun at a party and it can really help you meet some people...I know it has for me. Also, to me anyways, taking someone with you that you know should help out too as they can always be your fall back if you start to feel uncomfortable or out of place you can always go find them and talk with them for awhile. Just try to calm yourself and have fun...it's what everyone else is there for. Also, while many people around here tend to say that drinking only causes a higher amount of anxiety, I myself have yet to feel such thing. After downing a few I become much more lax, laid back and open to people. Maybe thats just how it is for me?
 

thor01

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Never been to one, never been invited to one, and havnt gone out of my way to try and go to one either
 
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