rado31 said:
I dont find compromisses as a good thing, it makes me more confused.
I think i m here where i m only becuse of few emotional attachment to
unpropriate persons.
What i mean is that you can't expect to fall in love with someone and they're going to be the same as you. It helps to have some intrests the same, things you can both relate to, but some varitey in intrests and experiences in life makes a relationship thrive to. You have to be comfortable with each other and say what you both want, or you'll feel like you take or give too much.
Love is where you care about someone deeply. With compromise if you disagree on something you can respect their veiw, and they can accept yours. Someone who can compromise is understanding, who will respect your feelings and be patient with you.
example:
If i was with a man and he wanted a more serious relationship, if he understood what i've been through in the past and how physical contact scares me, he'd wait till i was comfortable with him. That's an example of compromise.
If he got mad and tryed to force me to do things i didn't want to, or said he'd leave me, then that's emotional blackmail, abuse. And they'd want their own way, disregarding your feelings, then he's not compromising.
That's what compromise is. A relationship is about being together, making each other happy. Where you are honest with each other and really communicate. There's no control issues, your both equal, best friends.
If i do make friends or find a bf, then I'll tell him exactly what he'd be getting himself into now, with my agorophobia. I used to be afraid to tell anyone, but not anymore. If he's not for me, then that's ok cause then it wasn't meant. All or nothing, a pure, honest, real relationship is better.