WHY?

[Birdman]

Hey i was wondering why are you scared of being in social situations what is the reason? what are you afraid of?`

 

[Psychedelicious]

I am afraid of people judging me, hating me, saying something wrong, acting weird, not being liked. I'm afraid of what they will think of me, what they will do to me, or how they will treat me. It's so ridiculous really, I need to think about something other than myself some time. I really wish I didn't care.

 

[Birdman]

I am afraid of people judging me, hating me, saying something wrong, acting weird, not being liked. I'm afraid of what they will think of me, what they will do to me, or how they will treat me. It's so ridiculous really, I need to think about something other than myself some time. I really wish I didn't care.

let me ask you a question have you ever told someone something and they got really mad at you and hated you? that kind of stuff dosent really happen its just are perception of life. most people in this world are kind people.

you dont have to be nice or be mean to be liked, you just have to be you. Dont think that if you think different from someone there going to hate you,

I never in my life hated someone that had a different opinion then me,

you dont build a strong relationship with someone by what you really say to them, its the things you do for them it what i think mostly counts.

 

[_Brittany_]

I really don't know! =(

 

[miss_amy]

My experiences through my life have told me that people can be very mean. People that have been mean to me have started out nice and time and time again its happened. Everytime I decide to trust someone they have let me down and done something malicious or mean to me. Only a handful of people I can say I trully trust...my immediate family and my best friend.

Maybe some are kind but Ive learned to be wary of everyone.

I dont feel my fear of people is irrational.

 

[da3883]

I think mostly being judged by others. Worried about making the wrong 1st impression. Also, people finding out that I have SA and the social awkwardness that comes with it. In most guys perspective, lack of confidence and testosterone shows weakness, which can lead to being disrespected by others guys and being singled out. I go through phases of being confident for awhile, and then something will trigger my low self-esteem again. It's weird if you ask me. I definately think that society is definitely not helping...have you seen the all the reality shows on t.v. lately?

 

[Argamemnon]

I can't control my anxiety. I'm afraid that they will see how incredibly anxious and nervous and depressed I am. I can't hide my anxiety anymore as I used to. I'm afraid that when people see my anxious face they will get the urge to run away. When I talk to people I know I come across as mentally retarded etc. etc.

 

[Birdman]

Also its because we think of what the right thing to say, instead just say your true feeling.

 

[JonnyD]

I am afraid of people judging me, hating me, saying something wrong, acting weird, not being liked. I'm afraid of what they will think of me, what they will do to me, or how they will treat me. It's so ridiculous really, I need to think about something other than myself some time. I really wish I didn't care.

couldn't define it better!!!

Birdman, the worst problem is that most of us KNOW that its just in our minds, but the feeling is out of control...

Yesterday get a appointment to see a oftalmologist and i was normal until i sit in the waiting room, but when i get there i was totally nervous, i coulnd look around, i was trambling and totally tense... I wanted to go away, the only way i found was trying to close my eyes and keep very still , then i felt a little more confortable, because i was in the "autopilot" ...

The worst thing is that i knew everything was in my mind and i shouldn't feel like that... but when i get in the real situation, it's freaking scarry...
i'm glad i went there, generally i wouldn't because i knew something would happen, but i went and even if it was terrible i growed in some way.

Also its because we think of what the right thing to say, instead just say your true feeling.

Totally, i can rewrite a post or a mail for minutes, or don't speak something thinking about all the possibilities of someone getting it the wrong way.
Sometimes its good to think twice, but i just think a thousand times! some things that should come naturally are overthinked... and it keeps me from talking.

I would love to speak what i feel., without fear of judgment or fear of being wrong!

 

[JonnyD]

I am afraid of people judging me, hating me, saying something wrong, acting weird, not being liked. I'm afraid of what they will think of me, what they will do to me, or how they will treat me. It's so ridiculous really, I need to think about something other than myself some time. I really wish I didn't care.

couldn't define it better!!!

let me ask you a question have you ever told someone something and they got really mad at you and hated you? that kind of stuff dosent really happen its just are perception of life. most people in this world are kind people.

Birdman, the worst problem is that most of us KNOW that its just in our minds, but the feeling is out of control...

Yesterday get a appointment to see a oftalmologist and i was normal until i sit in the waiting room, but when i get there i was totally nervous, i coulnd look around, i was trambling and totally tense... I wanted to go away, the only way i found was trying to close my eyes and keep very still , then i felt a little more confortable, because i was in the "autopilot" ...

The worst thing is that i knew everything was in my mind and i shouldn't feel like that... but when i get in the real situation, it's freaking scarry...
i'm glad i went there, generally i wouldn't because i knew something would happen, but i went and even if it was terrible i growed in some way.

Also its because we think of what the right thing to say, instead just say your true feeling.

Totally, i can rewrite a post or a mail for minutes, or don't speak something thinking about all the possibilities of someone getting it the wrong way.
Sometimes its good to think twice, but i just think a thousand times! some things that should come naturally are overthinked... and it keeps me from talking.

I would love to speak what i feel., without fear of judgment or fear of being wrong!

 

[Birdman]

I am afraid of people judging me, hating me, saying something wrong, acting weird, not being liked. I'm afraid of what they will think of me, what they will do to me, or how they will treat me. It's so ridiculous really, I need to think about something other than myself some time. I really wish I didn't care.

couldn't define it better!!!

Birdman, the worst problem is that most of us KNOW that its just in our minds, but the feeling is out of control...

Yesterday get a appointment to see a oftalmologist and i was normal until i sit in the waiting room, but when i get there i was totally nervous, i coulnd look around, i was trambling and totally tense... I wanted to go away, the only way i found was trying to close my eyes and keep very still , then i felt a little more confortable, because i was in the "autopilot" ...

The worst thing is that i knew everything was in my mind and i shouldn't feel like that... but when i get in the real situation, it's freaking scarry...
i'm glad i went there, generally i wouldn't because i knew something would happen, but i went and even if it was terrible i growed in some way.

Also its because we think of what the right thing to say, instead just say your true feeling.

Totally, i can rewrite a post or a mail for minutes, or don't speak something thinking about all the possibilities of someone getting it the wrong way.
Sometimes its good to think twice, but i just think a thousand times! some things that should come naturally are overthinked... and it keeps me from talking.

I would love to speak what i feel., without fear of judgment or fear of being wrong!

You can speak how you feel, dont say you have fear of judgment you have fear of bad judgment, and if your wrong who cares there no one is going to hate you

instead of thinking what you say, say what you think

 

[lettypagb]

rejection ,rejection and rejection ...

 

[Ajuna24]

Like Psychedelicious, I am also afraid of people judging me, disliking me.. Afraid of saying something wrong or something that will embaress someone.

The fear of rejection..

I know it's silly but I usually try to avoid social situations.
Yep, thats how pathetic I am.