Why even bother having a conversation

[LazyHermitCrab]

I hate when people at work tell me to speak up at work and everything i say is so random apparantly. It's not just at work though. I can't not be random i guess. It's frusterating. Does anyone else deal with this??

sorry meant to write "bother"

 

[Hoppy]

For some strange reason I've found I actually listen to what people say.

I think because I'm stressed and concentrating the whole time, and I've found that most of what the 'social' people say turns out to be repeats and nonsense. Especially since you have to sit through a meeting that should have taken 20 minutes and they just keep on repeating themselves over and over.

Then they get angry because I don't want to repeat what I've said 20 minutes ago, and they have not bothered to listen.

I've occasionally felt like telling them to learn to listen first, and then I will start talking.

 

[popolala]

yeah i get that, i tend to have a low-tone voice when im shy or nervous, even if im speaking as loud as i can, somehow its not. i sometime cant even hear myself.. i think thats how shy and nervous i am..

i tend not to feel comfortable around people who i think are really cool.

i think its good to talk even if you stubble.. because it can only get better through practice. if you want to improve and be less sa.. its the only way.

Sure people may pitty you and we all have a self-pitty party.. but what can that do to help us.. i think we have to move on and dont give up!!

what i know is, people tend not to like a listener around, unless they going to say something back that sounds cool..
you dont even have to talk much, but your reply tells about your character and thinking..

i do believe communication links to whether or not your happy.

I tend to communicate better and less anxious when i am in a happier mood, but most of the time im not, so my convo tends to end and gives out a sad feeling.