Why don't people look at me when I talk?

[Hero]

This little problem is really bugging me. When I speak to people I know, they don't even look at me, or they don't look engrossed in me at all. For example, I was talking to a friend about a TV show we watch, and when I began to talk about it, he looked the other way like his mind was elsewhere. It feels like I don't deserve their company and that I'm a social irritant!

Don't you feel it should be the other way around, the social anxious person not giving any eye contact?

I'm feeling really low

 

[BlueDays]

I have found that there are some people who are not shy but still just don't like to look people in the eyes all the time when they are speaking with them. My step-father is one of them.
Maybe your friend has this problem? Does he look other people in the eyes all the time when he speaks with them?

If he does not have some hidden problem with this, then he may have had some worry on his mind that he could not stop thinking about or he was just being rude.
If it happens next time you speak with him maybe you could ask him if he is ok? At least then his answer may give you some insight as to why he is doing it.

 

[Silatuyok]

In a time when attention spans are freakishly short, I don't think it is something that you should take personally. There could be any number of reasons why someone does not maintain eye contact with you while you are speaking. The important thing is whether or not they are actively listening, and contributing to the conversation.