Why am I shy?

[Ky]

I'm shy because I fear embarassing myself in front of others.
I'm shy because I don't have enough confidence to say exactly how I feel in front of others.
I'm shy because I feel like that is what is expected of me and I feel like if I changed people would judge me even more.
I'm shy because it seems like that's all I've ever known.

I can't think of anymore reasons why I'm shy...although I'm sure I could come up with more.

I think that maybe thinking about the reasons why we're shy will help us realise how ridiculous they are. And, looking at my list, they are pretty ridiculous!

Post your reasons!

The song I always turn to...
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=My9I8q-iJCI

 

[Walk]

I'm shy because I'm afraid of self disappointment.

I'm shy because I'm afraid to disappoint others, especially those whom I seek approval of.

I fear lots of social events. lol Too many to list, but they're basically based on embarrassment in front of others or to myself.

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There is no cure all for this feeling, in my opinion and limited experience.

The only way is to consistently expand our level of comfort to the point where we feel like we're at least on a level to where we can succeed in life.

Sort of like stretching muscles. We can't just do the splits in one day, although constant stretching is needed or we go back to our inflexible, constrained states.

 

[lettypagb]

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[coriander1992]

I think my reasons are mostly similiar to yours...


I'm shy because I don't want people to think bad things about me.

I'm shy because I feel inferior to other people.

I'm shy because I can't live up to my high expectations.

I'm shy because I don't want to dissapoint anybody.

I'm shy because I just don't fit in.

 

[freestylemonster]

The odd thing is I don't even know why I'm shy.

I'm not scared to talk, I just can't bring myself to do it for some reason

I'm not afraid people will hate me, I don't care what people think

I think it's just that I'm overly sensitive and I take everything negative said to me too seriously...But I don't take the compliments (which I get more of than insults) as seriously for some reason..

I guess I'll never know why I'm shy, but dwelling on "why am I this way?" instead of "how can I get over this?" won't do any good for me I know that.

 

[dzerklis]

you are shy because http://www.webmd.com/mental-health/news/20080303/shyness-gene-teased-out

 

[hartbrokenvirgo]

im shy cause i dont want to show people the real me and be vurenable
im shy because i have love confidence
im shy because of insecurities
im shy because i fear heartbreak and rejection

 

[CPA23]

I agree with you 100% freestylemonster. I take the negative things that are said about me and I overanalyze and take those things to heart for so long. On the other hand I get many compliments and I usually brush them off for some reason. I really have to learn to not be so sensitive and have some tough skin.

We have to realize that there is good and bad in everybody. No one in the world will ever be liked by everybody. All you can do as an individual is be who you are and try to be respectful to others and hopefully the rest will fall into place.

 

[Psychedelicious]

I am shy because I don't know how to talk
I am shy because I don't want you to judge me
I am shy because I don't like myself at all
I am shy because I want to want be alone sometimes
I am shy because I wish I was something I'm not
I am shy because I want to different, but don't know how
I am shy because I feel so ugly
I am shy because I cannot compete with other people
I am shy because I am so afraid of everything
I am shy because I don't want people to look at me
I am shy because I fear rejection
I am shy because I don't know how to initiate things
And who knows why else...