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Is there a website with a story of somebody who actually overcame this?
I need inspiration.
I need inspiration.
spaceboy135
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yes I have overcome much of social anxiety and also avoidance...
Necrucifer
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Well if anyone finds anything let me know haha...My inspiration I had when I was actually able to talk to people when I first broke my SA I had a few drinks and just streaked to the neighbors house knocked on the door and took off...but made quite few friends that way to get started...not saying do that but maybe I should do that again next time I am at a party LOL maybe it will break my SA all over again haha.
hoddesdon
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I forgot Shield. You should read this:
http://www.socialphobiaworld.com/si...e-with-sa-have-trouble-getting-over-it-11127/
http://www.socialphobiaworld.com/si...e-with-sa-have-trouble-getting-over-it-11127/
hoddesdon
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There is also this one:
http://www.socialphobiaworld.com/you-can-recover-from-social-phobia-367/
This article is on the Internet:
You CAN recover from Social Phobia
There is also a recent thread by spaceboy135.
http://www.socialphobiaworld.com/you-can-recover-from-social-phobia-367/
This article is on the Internet:
You CAN recover from Social Phobia
There is also a recent thread by spaceboy135.
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Sweet thanks ppl.
Just read the article and it reads like a script from my life. Maybe they are right maybe little steps are better.
I keep wishing there was going to be a magic pill that will sort me out, but I suppose, in the end, there is only one person going to change me.........me.
That's the problem, but I wont give up and hopefully one day I can be the inspiration for someone
arjuna
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Even though I used to have a lot of trouble in society and with people, I think that after a few years of trying to integrate I no longer have what is known as social phobia. Now, I am merely shy. I can talk to random people with very little anxiety and am a lot better than I was a few years ago. Some keys to this are: experience, effort, avoidance of negative stimulus (avoid negative people who make you feel awful) and persistence.
I had incredible difficulty in speaking to random people in the street, so I decided to ask 10 strangers a day for the time. This works well as long as you make sure you dont ask the same person the time more than once. Once, a girl told me I had asked her for the time three times! I got a job and little by little I began speaking more and feeling more at ease. Sometimes going out with work colleages or meeting them outside work.
Sometimes having negative experiences with people can make you worse, but as long as you are in a civilized society and an adult (ie, not at school and subject to bullying), you can ignore or avoid these people so they don't get you down.
Probably one of the most disheartening things that can happen at the beginning is meeting people who don't understand your behaviour and who disrespect you. Again, avoid them.
I also think that sites like these can do more harm than good, because they are filled with people with problems and it can make you feel worse. So, probably going on these sites isn't the best for everyone.
And something I have found out recently is body language. Communication is in a large extent nonverbal. You can get books on body language from libraries and in general is very helpful in understanding people's emotions and wishes. So, reading about this topic may also help you.
I hope you all improve and live a happy life.
I had incredible difficulty in speaking to random people in the street, so I decided to ask 10 strangers a day for the time. This works well as long as you make sure you dont ask the same person the time more than once. Once, a girl told me I had asked her for the time three times! I got a job and little by little I began speaking more and feeling more at ease. Sometimes going out with work colleages or meeting them outside work.
Sometimes having negative experiences with people can make you worse, but as long as you are in a civilized society and an adult (ie, not at school and subject to bullying), you can ignore or avoid these people so they don't get you down.
Probably one of the most disheartening things that can happen at the beginning is meeting people who don't understand your behaviour and who disrespect you. Again, avoid them.
I also think that sites like these can do more harm than good, because they are filled with people with problems and it can make you feel worse. So, probably going on these sites isn't the best for everyone.
And something I have found out recently is body language. Communication is in a large extent nonverbal. You can get books on body language from libraries and in general is very helpful in understanding people's emotions and wishes. So, reading about this topic may also help you.
I hope you all improve and live a happy life.
I have overcome social anxiety and avoidant disorder. I'm thinking of writing an article about this and my story. If i do, i'll be sure to post it on the forums.
spaceboy135
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I have written a post about it here;
http://www.socialphobiaworld.com/if-you-really-are-serious-about-getting-over-your-s-a-and-avpd-completely-you-can-36971/
The best way I can put it down is social anxiety is merely a "symptom" from rejecting aspects of ourselves sub consciously based on other peoples opinions of you and your own...the more aspects you reject the more avoidant & socially anxious you become, because you are not being your natural self anymore and you have begun to control your own personality and watch what you do and say around people eventually you come to a point where you experience panic attacks which is not a very nice place to be believe me!
One way to know what you have rejected in yourself is too see what you are judging in other people for example if you have condemned yourself to be fat or ugly you will bitch about other fat and ugly ppl...the way to full recovery is too address and unconditionally love and accept every rejected aspect of yourself.
Each aspect or part you have rejected will have strong beliefs supporting why you have rejected it and it is your job to discover and uncover these aspects and what "false" beliefs may be supporting them and change them.
http://www.socialphobiaworld.com/if-you-really-are-serious-about-getting-over-your-s-a-and-avpd-completely-you-can-36971/
The best way I can put it down is social anxiety is merely a "symptom" from rejecting aspects of ourselves sub consciously based on other peoples opinions of you and your own...the more aspects you reject the more avoidant & socially anxious you become, because you are not being your natural self anymore and you have begun to control your own personality and watch what you do and say around people eventually you come to a point where you experience panic attacks which is not a very nice place to be believe me!
One way to know what you have rejected in yourself is too see what you are judging in other people for example if you have condemned yourself to be fat or ugly you will bitch about other fat and ugly ppl...the way to full recovery is too address and unconditionally love and accept every rejected aspect of yourself.
Each aspect or part you have rejected will have strong beliefs supporting why you have rejected it and it is your job to discover and uncover these aspects and what "false" beliefs may be supporting them and change them.
spaceboy135
Well-known member
The more aspects you heal the less socially anxious you become and you will notice significant permanent shifts on your perspective and your fear levels will drop dramatically, have you heard the saying that people will low self esteem see through goggles...an example is if you truley believe "nobody likes you or you a loozer" then your mind will only start to take notice of ppl rejecting you and the ppl that do not like you it won't take in all the wonderful compliments ppl said about you and you will dismiss them and only hear the negative...your mind is like a perceptual filter based on your incorrect beliefs and once you change and correct these beliefs your "filter" will become more open and accurate and you will SEE THE TRUTH AND REALITY