Where are you even supposed to meet girls?
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At work... school... clubs (the other kind)... in a store... on a bus... or literally any other public place that exists in the world.
Oh, and also lots of private places, like at a friend's house/party, although it helps if you have friends to begin with.
Come to think of it, there are even girls on the internet, so you can meet them from your own home!
Oh, and also lots of private places, like at a friend's house/party, although it helps if you have friends to begin with.
Come to think of it, there are even girls on the internet, so you can meet them from your own home!
There are going to be girls pretty much anywhere, so meeting them isn't a problem. The problem is taking the next step.
BashfulDoll
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most people meet their significant others at work so I guess there.
Ventrilotwo
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I'm in math so there's no girls in my classes nor will be any in my work
BashfulDoll
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online dating.
Ventrilotwo
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i'm afraid of online dating because i feel that when you actually meet it iwll be even more nerve wrecking than just meeting before you know eachother.
BashfulDoll
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Ventrilotwo said:
to me it'd seem easier online dating. I mean you don't have to talk to them just type. they cant tell you're nervous because they can't see you, and you can text for months or w.e until you feel comfortable meeting. Seems like a win win.
getbornagain
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I'd like to meet some girls who are just as shitty within society as I am... unfortunately they're all hiding like the rest of us.
Ventrilotwo
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ballin'
ventriloone
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i don't think i would be good at it but i would like to be in a situation where atleast i realize their intentions... I mean i'm not going to just go and talk to a girl randomly on campus but maybe if i knew she was there to socialize then it would be different. I want a place like that aside from bars and clubs where everyone is drunk and a moron
Thelema
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ventriloone said:
Thats something else we do...we feel like we're bothering people when we try to start a conversation with them. How many people meet their boyfriend/girlfriend at school? Nearly everyone at one time or another and college is the absolute best place to meet girls; since we at least have the opportunity to interact with them for at least as long as the class is.
ventriloone
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i mean clubs as in "clubbing"... i don't know if that's what everyone calls it... They're dimly lit places with loud music where everyone is drunk and dances retardedly...?
weak
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Ventrilotwo said:
You gotta force yourself or you're not gonna meet anyone.
Obviously everyone prefers the "natural" method of meeting girls... where you meet them by chance and everything happens on its own... but that doesn't happen too often for people who dont go out and dont socialize much. So if that's what you're waiting for, I wouldnt hold your breath.
So just do a test and sign up on a dating sign just to get a feel for it. Who knows what might happen... you have nothing to lose.
I remember I was extremely ambivalent about doing online dating but my friend insisted I give it a shot. I still refused so he just made the account for me. A few days later I started getting emails from girls and it gave me a taste of all the stuff I could be doing if I just forced myself out the door.
I'm not gonna lie. Even today, the idea of meeting a girl off the internet scares the shit out of me. But if you get extremely selective in who you choose to meet... you can narrow it down to only girls who are most likely in the same boat as you... girls who are equally as scared of meeting people off the internet. When you're meeting a girl who can relate to your problems and stuff... there isnt nearly as much pressure. So its a lot easier to force yourself out that door.
So give it a shot. Talk with a bunch of girls and see if you can find one you can relate too. Girls rarely advertise that theyre shy. You gotta look for signs.. and after youve been emailing em for long enough they'll start to open up and the idea of meeting them wont be so scary.
The bottom line is... being alone fucking sucks. Having a girlfriend can change everything around for you... even your anxiety, at least to a certain extent. So if you have a chance to meet someone good, force yourself to take it.
ventriloone
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aren't I a bit young for online dating anwayys? Aren't those people mostly 30+... Also my city isn't gigantic.
Ubersonic
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At the store I always check out at the register with the cutie. I'll make comments about stuff and hope a convo gets started. That's all I have going at the moment. I don't really want to do any online dating. I'd prefer getting the physical acceptance out of the way frist, then the personality.
TAMPA-BAY
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hi
Its up to you where you want to meet girls. They are everywhere. Like some of the earlier posters mentioned. Its not the question of finding them but what to do during and after.
I know you wont believe this but girls will just fall in your lap. The trick is to be aware of it happening. There are so many times it happned to me but i didnt realized it on till much much later.
The reason we usualy dont notice is because of our unwritten rules and standards.
Its up to you where you want to meet girls. They are everywhere. Like some of the earlier posters mentioned. Its not the question of finding them but what to do during and after.
I know you wont believe this but girls will just fall in your lap. The trick is to be aware of it happening. There are so many times it happned to me but i didnt realized it on till much much later.
The reason we usualy dont notice is because of our unwritten rules and standards.