where are you all?

[TheNewZero]

I don't ever think I've met someone who is really really shy, to the point that they seem uncomfortable or nervous about it. Never ever. Where are you people? I feel like I talk to a lot of people who say they are shy, but they're not. At least compared to me. I sort of hung out with the uncool people in my high school, and they always would say that they knew where I was coming from, and that they were all shy. But they weren't! They could actually talk in class from time to time and voice their opinions and talk to classmates. It makes me feel worse. I told my therapist this and she said a lot of people with SA don't pick up on other people's social anxiety. Do you guys?

 

[redpine17]

nope. i dont think so. maybe i wud be able to tell? i duno everyones diffferent. plus not every one with social anziety has it the same

 

[redpine17]

well yeah most shy/anxiety people woudnt want many people to know they have it. and some can cover it up really well. ive never met anyone with sa. other than that its a good point to bring up actualli

 

[StuckGirl]

We are all hiding in caves! If I am forced to go out (hospital etc) I am too focused
on what I look like and how I come across so wouldn't notice another Social Phobic

 

[redpine17]

do u feel as if everyone is watching you

 

[StuckGirl]

do u feel as if everyone is watching you

I do. They are watching me , thinking I am ugly/stupid/pointless.
I know it is silly and the opposite is true but..meh.

 

[RiiyaX]

[Gone for good.]

 

[TheNewZero]

You probably just don't notice them.

Once in my Spanish class, I sat behind a girl who might have had social anxiety (she was quiet, at least). We were always partners, but after we were done with the assignment we would sit uncomfortably not knowing what to say to each other. Several conversation starters were attempted, but they would always end in an awkward silence because neither of us knew how to carry a conversation. We both knew this, which made it even worse.

That quarter remains one of the strangest experiences I've ever had in my life. It also made me realize I probably shouldn't go around looking for someone with SA if that was how things were always going to be like.

That happened to me in my french class too. The girl was actually really popular, and talked fine outside of class but was still shy. The teacher always paired us up, I guess thinking that because we were both shy we would get along. Which, by the way, is completely false. I had to do a french cooking project with her that involved her coming over to my house. It was awful.

 

[Ubersonic]

I have one experience with another SA person.

I went to a high school dance with an extremely shy girl. Our friends set us up together so they would have another couple to eat with. This worked for me because I really liked her, and I was too shy to ask her myself.

Throughout the whole night she didn't dance with me, look at me, or even speak one sentence... I felt terrible.

When I got home and got online she IM'd immediately and apologized. She became extremely chatty online, since I still liked her for some reason I chatted back. We ended up chatting for hours. This became the habit everyday after school. We would chat for hours. I would see her in the hallways and she could barely say hi to me. I wanted to move things into real life until she finally admitted she just wanted to be "online friends". I felt betrayed yet again by this girl!

Looking back I can see we both had social anxiety out the wazoo. I was stupid and thought because we both were shy she would somehow be attracted to me. Nope, she told me she wanted an outgoing guy even though she is really shy herself.

I found out years later she finally got that boyfriend she always wanted, but she still has no friends. Whereas I have never even charmed a girl, but I have decent friends.

 

[Psychedelicious]

jajaja

Where Am I, well I'm here. I can't hide that there is obviously something wrong with me. I don't know if I can pick up on it that much because I never really see people, but sometimes. Like there was this one kid I remember who was like seriously disturbed or something. They never ever said one word. They would also walk really really slow and they looked like they were dead, it was really creepy. They had like really long stringy hair and would always have their head way way down, don't think it ever got a good look at his face. Like something out of a horror movie kind of.

I wanted to know who he was, and I tried following him around a bit, but he just walked way too slow for me and it didn't really lead anywhere. Then one day he mysteriously vanished off of the face of the earth, and I hope he isn't dead or anything. I wouldn't doubt it though. I really wonder who this person was, they obviously had really big problems. I really wanted to know what was up with him, but I don't think I'll ever know.

 

[aussieshane8]

i am 38 years old and covered in tattoos including around my neck so no you wouldnt think i have sa but i do and the way i look is to cover my sa so people dont know .its not until you talk to me that you will see i will not look you in the eyes and seem more shy than you would think because the way i look...i am a sheep in a wolves clothing