what's wrong with me

DeadmanWalking

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I'm not sure if I'm on the mark or not, but it sounds as if it's a combination. Your exes have dealt a blow to your self-image and self-esteem. It also seems as if you've been "poisoned by the media". The media shows what sells and apparently that's blue-eyed women. You don't have to change yourself because you're perfect the way you are:). Your boyfriend appreciates your looks and that should be enough. It's good that you're going to go get help though.
 

hidwell

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In my opinion the reason why people with blue eyes and blonde hair are put on a pedestal is because they are in the minority. That's is why so many women dye their hair blonde, so they feel special. I would say 90% of the world's population has brown eyes and dark brown hair. So to have blue eyes and blonde hair is seen as angelic and therefore special. Just my opinion.
 

shakethelight

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well, I am not a doctor so I can't really say anything but i think part of it is youve been hurt badly and your self esteem is paying for it. I had an ex once tell me I was perfect for him ONLY if I was skinnier. And I loved him. It crushed my soul. ( this was 9 yrs ago) and ever since then ive been obsessed with weight. I joined the gym. I stopped eating. I started taking diet pills and laxatives. Everything has been about food & weight. so I assume because youve been hurt you need some type of validation. you probably think because he hurt you everyone else is the same. I hope you realize youre beautiful no matter what color your eyes are.
 

coyote

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it is my understanding that "blue" eyes are, in fact, colorless - there is no blue pigment in the iris - you merely see the scattering/reflection of light, the same thing that makes the sky blue

i have no idea if this is helpful at all

my eyes are very light blue

and my hair is very pale blonde

i'm neither angel nor demon, i assure you
 
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