What qualities men/guys like in their soulmate?

[fallenfeather]

I like a girl who likes to have sex all the time. Especially if it is something where sex and pain go hand in hand.

Iamantisocial - Is that all you look for in a girl? Surely there must be some presonality traits you look for.

 

[black_mamba]

Not all relationships need to be longterm/mainstream/typical. :wink:

 

[iamantisocial]

I like a girl who likes to have sex all the time. Especially if it is something where sex and pain go hand in hand.

Iamantisocial - Is that all you look for in a girl? Surely there must be some presonality traits you look for.

Thats all I expect. I wouldnt mind working like a slave in 2 jobs just to get things going... while doing everything else in the house by myself. Thats all I expect. I dont care if you dont work and just sleep all day. As long as we get along and you dont piss me off.

 

[lonley1]

imo you either mesh or you don't simple.

 

[the_sullen]

a sense of humor, some understanding and a whole heap of issues. like me.

 

[loneEAGLE]

a sense of humor, some understanding and a whole heap of issues. like me.

:twisted: exactly, a girl who is a social "train wreck" like me...as long as i am one of the people she actually talks to :!:

 

[lily]

Sorry for the delay in replying. I forgot about this thread lol.

I did forget to mention the physical side of the story. I do need to be attracted to the person I'm going out with, otherwise there's just no chemistry and it would end up just a freindship. I've dated a few very good looking girls in the past and they never worked out. They were over confident and untrustworthy. That's not to say all very good looking girls are that way.

Going out with someone extremely good looking has it's own problems outside of trust and respect, such as the levelof attention, looks, smiles, whistles and comments from members of the oposite sex and how that can effect your self esteem when you're walking along beside them, wondering if they'd rather be with the other person. After a while it can start to knock your self esteem.

Now I'd be happy to be with someone with a beautiful personality, who I jus found quite attractive, rather than a stunner who's personality is quite rough around the edges.

Oh and lastly, I haven't been out with many shy girls. I guess by having sa I've always been to shy to apporach girls and so I'd always end up with the girls who approached me, and obviously they'd be quite confident to be doing the approaching. I'd ideally like to be with a girl who had sa My sa isn't too bad, and I am quite confident, especially now. I have a few things I try to avoid, such as busy shopping centres, work meetings, parties and weddings, but apart from those, most people would't have a clue I had sa.

All you sa girls looking for a nice guy.....pm me!! LOL

Sorry also for replying late, and I agree that looks don't matter much.

Like fallenfeather said sorry for the late reply jinxed.To be completley honest i didnt understand some of your post,maybe cos i dont have the same experience or more probaly cos i need it dumbed down sometimes cos i find it hard to grasp things :lol:

I totaly know what you mean about stepping over the friendship/relationship barrier tho.It really is easier to step back when your just friends for some reason... its weird and hard to explain but you did a good job.Sometimes just simply going from friends to a relationship changes things and people so soo much.You meet someone you get along ace then you take it further and things just change so much.I guess its maybe because peoples expectations of you change and they view you different which i can understand to a certain point,and of course feelings are amplified when you let yourself become more closerer.but sometimes its like you find a totaly new side to the person and you think wheres the person i knew and liked gone.Dunno if that made much sence to your post like but anyway it sounds like youve been treated bad in relationships and had your feelings/trust abused from what you have wrote, sorry if that is the case.

thanks for the replies everyone. Yeah that can happen Danfalc. I also wasn't interested in this thread anymore but I got insight here and others could still respond.
And speaking of the bad relationships and trust, actually I was never in one and was talking of the people who are quite different in what I would've expected of how others usually are that I've met and it was a turn off as in friendship, so in that way it's true though I don't consider it that serious as I could avoid those ppl at all costs, and it's not a problem if you didn't understand what I wrote. I wasn't specific and I also forgot about the thread too, and apologize.

 

[LittleMissMuffet]

Hey Quixote,

I couldn't resist putting my 2 cents worth into what you said about men having a greater tendency to cheat whilst expecting women to be faithful.
Reminds me of that limerick: 'Higammus Biggamus, men are polygamous; Higgamous, hoggamous, women monogamous'
...only spelt correctly. :wink:

What do I think?
...I think that it is one thing to make an observation about a percentage of society's attitudes towards sexuality, and an entirely different thing to pin-point the precise dynamics underlying human sexuality -of which, incidentally, I consider my self an expert on!! 8)

Basically, what I think you were pointing out was a trend that exists to some degree that is probably also in part based on culture (eg: compare Italian men to German men, and they say that the former have more mistresses). ...But it is also really a question of when the scales tip and it goes the other way. ...for example, observe the shift in sexual attitudes that has happened probably largely as a result of the internet. Internet pornography -I prefer the term 'erotica' - has in some ways done more for female sexual liberation than the movements in the 70s, and of course, in other ways it has done less!! (for exmple, I see the adds on a regular basis teaching - :!: - Australians that violence towards women is unacceptable) ....but one thing that this (the internet and modern life) has done is change people's ideas about women and sex. It's no longer that women are seen as not liking sex. ...whereas I think that this underlying attitude and perception that women don't really enjoy sex and that sex has to do with power, makes people then treat it as such.

To make a long and complicated story short, I've read that up to a certain point women tend to be sexually 'unenthusiatic' and men 'enthusiastic', and then past a certain point this is completely reversed. Kind of like one is the mirror, inside-out version of the other.

So what you observe is an attitude that does to some extent exist in society and in peoples' minds, but it isn't the underlying truth just as it isn't the thought behind the thought. ...A truth, by the way, that I happen to be very sure about. :lol:

 

[freakme]

I would like him to be someone understanding and doesn't judge me too quick . Caring & funny would be good too.

 

[applesewer]

What qualities would I look for in a girl? Well, I’m no expert, I’ve only ever had one girlfriend, but I think for me to marry a girl, I think she’d have to understand me, and for me to understand her, and for us to be on the same wavelength…so there’s no tension when we chat…so like, just someone I can be best mates with really. I don’t think I mind how messed up she is, cause I’m pretty messed up myself, but I think it’s important that she’s open and kind of looking in the right direction…so we can change and grow together.

It’d be cool if we shared the same sense of humour too so we could have a laugh…but I dunno, that’s not necessarily vital.

I don’t think physical attractiveness is particularly important either. I think on the surface level someone who I’m physically attracted to would excite me more than someone who I’m not…but past that surface level, it won’t matter.

 

[Lonelyheart]

My dream girl would be sweet, kind, compassionate, caring, lovable, honest, faithful, sexually pure, innocent, adorable, sensitive, clean, organized, neat, modest, polite, intelligent, accepting, sophisticated, nuturing, shy, and soft-spoken. The more of these personality characteristics she exhibits the better. My personality is similar to what is listed above, and I think that, for personality, likes attract.

I admit, that beauty is also somewhat important to me. The most important physical attributes to me in order are:

1. Beautiful, cute face
2. Petite
3. Healthy body figure
4. Medium to long hair

 

[Kinetik]

I'm into women that are very human. Those who can open their hearts, be on my wavelength, talk to me properly and discuss their hopes, dreams, and fears. I like girls that have realistic expectations of me, who aren't overly clingy or insecure, and who are understanding of the fact that I need space and that I'm pretty tricky at times. It's important that she looks up to me, respects me, and makes me feel like a man. She would also have to be honest. It's a plus if she's somewhat caring and affectionate, and is okay with being kind of traditional in that sense. Sex is also something to think about. She would have to be comfortable with it and not afraid to express herself in that way; I don't have a massive sex drive, but when I want it, I want it. She does have to appeal to me in the visual department as well, but I don't have a certain type at all and I'm definitely not super-critical with it. I must've fallen for every single kind of woman at least three times over during the course of my life. The only appearance-based consistency is that every girl I've dated has been short. I'm 6'4'' myself, so maybe it's an opposites-attract thing. But yeah, that pretty much covers it. Not picky at all huh?

 

[cloaked]

i just want a girl who understands me and accepts me for who i am. a girl who i can love and who loves me back. a girl who would never hurt me by cheating or beiung cruel to me and i would never do the same to her.

i don't think i will ever find a girl because i have tried so many times. i know they all hate me because i am skinny.

 

[Kinetik]

I forgot to add that if a woman keeps going on about her period, it's usually a bit of a dealbreaker. Why women are so comfortable telling me of all people about their menstruation, I'll never know.

 

[shipost]

For me:

- confident in herself
- ok looks(nothing amazing just not bad where i feel sick looking at her)
- likes to travel
- good sense of humour
- somone who doesnt seen 'time' to pack and stuff, like needing a week to plan to go a weekend away when you could be packed in a few hours and be there.
- somone who likes riding on back of motorbike

perfect girl for me, bring her to me

 

[Quixote]

My dream girl would be sweet, kind, compassionate, caring, lovable, honest, faithful, sexually pure, innocent, adorable, sensitive, clean, organized, neat, modest, polite, intelligent, accepting, sophisticated, nuturing, shy, and soft-spoken. The more of these personality characteristics she exhibits the better. My personality is similar to what is listed above, and I think that, for personality, likes attract.

Did I see "modest" in the list as well? :lol: