What makes a good friend?
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Here is what I think makes a good/true friend:
1. A true friend is somebody who respects you for who you are and you can respect him for who he is. There is always mutual respect.
2. A true friend should always be understanding and shouldn't be judgemental. I am not saying that there cannot be disagreements, but a compromise is always reached, and no grudges are held.
3. A true friend does not take you (or other friends) for granted. You are not regarded as just a status symbol, only to feed your friend's own popularity and reputation among peers. Friends are a responsibility as well as an obligation and an honor. A true friend treats friends as such, and you do the same.
4. You can feel comfortable putting your "fate" in the hands of a true friend, trusting that he/she will do the right things. He/she should also feel comfortable doing the same to you. Basically this is just a matter of mutual trust.
5. There are "friends" who are with you in the brightest times, but they disappear when you are facing your darkest times. No matter how dark things may get, a true friend will always be there for support. Of course, you have to be the same way. Friends are always worth it!
Social anxiety or not, friends are friends, and in my opinion, these qualities are what a true friend has. I hope that these claims are not outrageous or too far-fetched, because based on my description of a friend there might not be too many people who qualify. I hope that I am not the only one who thinks this is how a friend should be.
The people that I have come across have either been posers who pretend to be my friend but use me, or they don't get to know me well enough to become friends and forget about me.
However, I still believe there are true friends out there. A group of truly special people....they're out there. And there are probably many others who could develop these qualities, but don't feel the need to.
But I realize that I have to hold my end of the bargain too in a friendship. I know that change needs to come from me, I need to prove to people that I have these qualities before expecting somebody to be my friend.
I hope that I am not asking for too much...:
: It's not a case of "either you have these qualities are you don't", you can develop these qualities! What do you think?
1. A true friend is somebody who respects you for who you are and you can respect him for who he is. There is always mutual respect.
2. A true friend should always be understanding and shouldn't be judgemental. I am not saying that there cannot be disagreements, but a compromise is always reached, and no grudges are held.
3. A true friend does not take you (or other friends) for granted. You are not regarded as just a status symbol, only to feed your friend's own popularity and reputation among peers. Friends are a responsibility as well as an obligation and an honor. A true friend treats friends as such, and you do the same.
4. You can feel comfortable putting your "fate" in the hands of a true friend, trusting that he/she will do the right things. He/she should also feel comfortable doing the same to you. Basically this is just a matter of mutual trust.
5. There are "friends" who are with you in the brightest times, but they disappear when you are facing your darkest times. No matter how dark things may get, a true friend will always be there for support. Of course, you have to be the same way. Friends are always worth it!
Social anxiety or not, friends are friends, and in my opinion, these qualities are what a true friend has. I hope that these claims are not outrageous or too far-fetched, because based on my description of a friend there might not be too many people who qualify. I hope that I am not the only one who thinks this is how a friend should be.
The people that I have come across have either been posers who pretend to be my friend but use me, or they don't get to know me well enough to become friends and forget about me.
However, I still believe there are true friends out there. A group of truly special people....they're out there. And there are probably many others who could develop these qualities, but don't feel the need to.
But I realize that I have to hold my end of the bargain too in a friendship. I know that change needs to come from me, I need to prove to people that I have these qualities before expecting somebody to be my friend.
I hope that I am not asking for too much...:
: It's not a case of "either you have these qualities are you don't", you can develop these qualities! What do you think?