coriander1992
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strawberrybrunette said:
Ditto to both of you.
what is your problem now????
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Ditto to both of you.
x-xkittenx-x
Member
My problem is that now;
when trying so very hard to go further with my future;
i feel as if I am going no where;
I am done and passed high school;
but in terms of love, and friendships;
I am lost.
♥
when trying so very hard to go further with my future;
i feel as if I am going no where;
I am done and passed high school;
but in terms of love, and friendships;
I am lost.
♥
bulldog21083
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Angel_Of_Death said:
I could not agree with that more. I'm 25, I had a girlfriend for the first time a couple months ago even though it only lasted a couple weeks (at least I finally got to kiss a girl). So I feel like if I don't get a serious girlfriend in the next few years I'll get to the point where I will be too old and there won't really be any left. And the ones that are left would be incredibly turned off by a guy in his late 20's that's never had a serious relationship.
While I have taken some pretty decent steps this year (like having some very good dates with my ex, I couldn't believe how talkative I was) I still feel like I'm regressing with making friends. While I'm not really nervous around people I don't know it seems like I hear more and more that I'm too quiet, I seem uncomforatable, and I never smile. A couple years ago I figured I was just shy, but now I realize I probably do have social anxiety. I just feel like if I can't break out of it in the next couple years I'm never going to.
Angel_Of_Death
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bulldog21083 said:
I'm 24, so right there with you. Atleast you've already had a girlfriend. And what you said about girls being turned off with a guy in his late 20's who's never had any serious relationships, you're 100% right!
I think I'm a good looking guy in athletic shape, and I'm smart. I've got a good salary, nice job, going for a university degree and I have a car.
It's just that I'm so fucking low in my confidence and scared of women.
I have all the tools to find myself a girl, which I desperately need. I just need to overcome social anxiety, not sure how....
sabbath92002
Banned
Sex Pistols said:
strawberrybrunette
Well-known member
Great post. I love that song ^^^^
The problem is you! (well, not you specifically, but everyone!!)
The problem is you! (well, not you specifically, but everyone!!)
lunarskye
Active member
My problem is life and the quest for perfection. I feel I can't be ready to face the world unless I have what I consider the perfect body and looks. I am overly obssessed with wanting everything to be perfect.
The problem is I hate myself and everything about what makes me me. Im jealous of my sister who i think is perfect. [she can sing, she's smart, she's social, has many friends and is athletic] you hate her too, right?
The ultimate problem is I am standing in my way and blocking my potential success.
The problem is I hate myself and everything about what makes me me. Im jealous of my sister who i think is perfect. [she can sing, she's smart, she's social, has many friends and is athletic] you hate her too, right?
The ultimate problem is I am standing in my way and blocking my potential success.
dpr
Well-known member
bulldog21083 said:
I think there are a lot of cool girls out there who would be understanding about being a virgin in your late 20's. I'm sure there are lots of girls who stay virgins until their late 20's. I know three personally! One is 26 and the other two are 28!
A lot of them may think it's cool even. If anyone asks why you don't have to tell them it's because of your SP right away. You could always just say, "I need to make sure I am comfortable enough with a person before I have sex with them, and I haven't yet met that person."
Perfectly mature and understandable thing to say.
Shattered
Active member
My problem right now is a killer kidney infection, medical bills, dealing with my father on meth after his recent 5-way bypass heart surgery and trying not to love my boyfriend too much. I know he can only give so much right now and the ache for more is fueled by my own impatience. Does that make any sense??
tofeelatease
New member
Again,it strikes me....
I wake up feeling scared another day of living in anxiety has came.
I goes to work as usual but am afraid that i am not able to work.
My real problem is that i am afraid of broken frienships again.call me silly,foolish..everything is allright now.friends,family,work. but i just cant help to feel that my friends would go away from me. I have a supportive family,with my mum always encouraging me.I used to be afraid of going out to the streets, feeling that everyone is looking at me, seeing me as a weirdo,perhaps judging my actions,my expressions etc. The condition has gotten better but i am afraid of another stuff- broken friendships. I kept thinking of solutions to suppress the fear inside me, but right now no solution can suppress the fear inside. All the bad scenories kept flashing and repeating in my mind and i have to think of the soultions to stop.
Am i going crazy soon?I am much more fortunate than others but i just cant stop worrying.I dont know where should i go or how should i think to feel better........
I wake up feeling scared another day of living in anxiety has came.
I goes to work as usual but am afraid that i am not able to work.
My real problem is that i am afraid of broken frienships again.call me silly,foolish..everything is allright now.friends,family,work. but i just cant help to feel that my friends would go away from me. I have a supportive family,with my mum always encouraging me.I used to be afraid of going out to the streets, feeling that everyone is looking at me, seeing me as a weirdo,perhaps judging my actions,my expressions etc. The condition has gotten better but i am afraid of another stuff- broken friendships. I kept thinking of solutions to suppress the fear inside me, but right now no solution can suppress the fear inside. All the bad scenories kept flashing and repeating in my mind and i have to think of the soultions to stop.
Am i going crazy soon?I am much more fortunate than others but i just cant stop worrying.I dont know where should i go or how should i think to feel better........
zadaa516
New member
my problem is i just found out that i have social phobia, and its kinda freaking me out.
all of my friends are 12-15 and im 18. everyone asks me why i hang out with kids. its becase im too afraid of people my age. and people make fun of me for it.
yesterday i thought i was talking with one of my friends online about it, and it turned out to be her older sister. and now i cant stop thinking about what she thinks of me, even though i dont know her. it has me so shaken to the point of tears.
im going to college this year, and it scares me. im going to feel alone and im not going to be able to make friends there.
all of my friends are 12-15 and im 18. everyone asks me why i hang out with kids. its becase im too afraid of people my age. and people make fun of me for it.
yesterday i thought i was talking with one of my friends online about it, and it turned out to be her older sister. and now i cant stop thinking about what she thinks of me, even though i dont know her. it has me so shaken to the point of tears.
im going to college this year, and it scares me. im going to feel alone and im not going to be able to make friends there.
CK23
Well-known member
My problem right now is serious loneliness... I have no friends at all, i have very poor communication with my parents and i have been made to tie the knot with a girl whose even more insecure and terrified than me... Basically my life is one big piece of hell... The only things that keep me alive are the american soap operas i watch and the office i go to... I feel like a small trembling child when i go to the office cos the people there are very nice and it really overwhelms me since i have been knocked around my entire life... I pray and pray i'll get someone to be my friend... just ask God please i'll take all the crap, all the blows and the insults i'll have sex with a girl i have no love sparks with all in exchange for someone who cares... just one person... thats all i ask... I've never felt this small in my entire life especially after i found out why i wasnt as confident as normal people are... i didnt know i had SA before and i was in really bad shape cos of that...
